(Closed) A couple gift registry etiquette questions:

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
Member
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t be afraid to register for big stuff – one of our church friends is getting married soon, and four couples (including us) are planning to go in together to get them a big ticket item from their registry. It’s way more fun to buy than a bunch of small stuff!

Post # 4
Member
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@afuturemrsl: I say register for things you need/want…I don’t think there is a certain number.  The most expensive thing on our list was the KitchenAid Mixer for $300, I chose things that I think people would purchase and I liked them.  I also thought, “Would I spend that much on a wedding gift for someone or would I purchase it for myself at that price?” and if the answer was no, then I skipped it. 

Post # 5
Member
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@afuturemrsl – 1.  When you go to register at places such as B,B,&B, they are able to give you an estimate.  It’s been a while since we registered, so I’m forgetting the amount (sorry).  Keep an eye on your registery and add items if you feel there isn’t a variety of items in different cost brackets.  2.  I would probably hold off on registering for too many items that are costly.  You could always purchase exhange items for bigger ones or apply gift cards to the big ticket items.  Happy Registering!!

Post # 6
Member
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I was told you should register for at least as many gifts as you have guest.  If you are having showers then maybe do a little more.  Really just keep an eye on your registry to see if you are getting low in some different price ranges. 

I don’t think anyone would be offended if you registered for high dollar items as long as you have multiple price ranges.  I know lots of people get annoyed when people either have only expensive or only cheaper items.  Keep the price range open for you guest.

We also went witht he “Would we spend this much on this item”

Post # 7
Member
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Also just an FYI, a lot of places you can go online and add or remove items per the store’s web site. So if you say register for something at the store and later on think why did we do that. You can go online and adjust.  We just registered this past weekend and really, really like the fact that we can do that

Post # 8
Member
374 posts
Helper bee

Hi.  I think a pot and pan set is a reasonable high end request.  It can be a group gift.  I asked for King size blankets and quilts and my 3 aunts bought them for me and I was thrilled!

I think if you want crystal and china then you should register for it.  If you do, you will need minimally 12 sets.  If not, don’t.   My aunt found a great site and I must share it.  It sells first quality with no tax, no shipping cost, free gift wrap, free card and undercuts major department stores.   http://www.bestcyrstal.com  You can register there!!  Friends and family will love you for it because you are stretching their dollar and you are getting what you want that would cost more elsewhere!

You can register at Sears for things like roof rakes, lawn movers and snow blowers and tools.  You never know.  Someone may want to spend money on that over china and cystal and actually pay more money over what the other things cost because they want you to have it.

You can register at a smaller hardware store and they will be happy to keep a runnjing list for you event hough they don’t do registry’s generally.

Be pratical.  Don’t go overboard because you’ll end up storing it and not using it.

How much to register for is relative.  The basics are important.  But do you want someone to spend $300.00 on towels and sheets or $300.00 on china and crystal or a lawn mower?  I think the bottom line is if you can get something chepaer on your own, don’t register for it.  Or divulge the great deal website and register.  People will spend what they want, not what you want costs.  So you want to give them the most bang for their buck.

Be humble.  Don’t be greedy.  Be practical.  Be realistic.  Don’t order just to order.  Do click what you want and what you need.  You may get what you ask for!!

Post # 9
Member
9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you want big things really badly, to the point where you would be likely to buy them for yourself if you didn’t get them, you should absolutely put them on your registry. As someone else pointed out, sometimes people will go in together to get a bigger gift. also, a LOT of stores offer a completion discount.. for example, crate and Barrel will give you 10% off any item on your registry that you did not receive after your wedding. So if you’re like me, looking at a $400 coffee table or a $600 bedframe, and you think you’ll buy it if you don’t get it… you might as well put it on there for the discount later!

Post # 10
Member
45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think it’s ok to register for some large dollar items, as long as you have some lower priced items.  You’ll probably be surprised at people’s generosity.  Plus, I like going in with friends on bigger gifts that otherwise may not be purchased.  Some of your friends/family may want to do that for you as well!  My brothers went together and bought me my $500 KitchenAid Professional mixer so I was super glad to have registered for it!

Post # 11
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Register for lots of things! People will buy you multiple things, especially if you have some cheaper/smaller things (towels, kitchen utensils, etc). And you want your guests to have choices and not get stuck with very few options of things to buy. Additionally, if you’re having showers, you’ll need even more options. Don’t be afraid to give your guests too many options over too few.

Post # 12
Member
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Don’t forget that a lot of places will give you a discount on the things not purchased off your registry.  So if it’s something that you would eventually want to buy for yourself – put it on there!  If no one buys it you then have the opportunity to buy it for yourself with a discount.

Post # 13
Member
374 posts
Helper bee

Does Crate and Barrell give me 10% on anything people didn’t give me, PLUS their discount coupon?

The topic ‘A couple gift registry etiquette questions:’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors