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If my FI planned our wedding the colors would be red and black like his college alma mater, the ceremony would be at a courthouse and the reception might still be at a winery, but only if we could get it done for 1/5 the cost. Otherwise, he'd find a brewery or a park. He really only cares about good food and lots of alcohol.
He would get to wear shorts and flip-flops instead of a tux. Whatever I wore would not cost more than $200. Oh, and there would be NO witnesses to the ceremony other than the 2 required by law. He's very nervous about having to get all those warm, fuzzy words out in front of all those people.
If my fi planned our wedding it would be like a frat party... liquor and costumes... the horror lol
There's a whole show about this! It's on the BBC America, it's called "Don't Tell the Bride". The couple is given enough money to have a nice wedding- but the bride isn't allowed to pick out anything. Not even her dress. Hilarity ensues, I assure you.
Probably
Beer and chicken or steak for food.
Probably courthouse wedding
Shades of navy and orange (his two favorite colors)
He would let me pick my dress because he knows I crazy I am about fashion and I would NOT walk down that aisle in a crazy dress
No fancy art gallery, no sir, it would probably be at our 700 sq apartment with everyone packed in there
An Ipod reception blaring out his favorite rock bands: Muse, Forever the Sickest, New Found Glory
we woke up, went diving, got married in front of a dive shop and went diving again while in the band was a old guy with no teeth playing empty wine bottle and spoon - hubby DID plan our wedding :)
oh, did i mention the topless chick sunbathing about 6ft from where we were saying our vows??
I have to say , my man is pretty hands on , like he wants to put his 2 cents on everything we do ..which is fine ..but i think if it was TOTALLY up to him...
He and the men would be wearing Jeans and tshirts..lol.., he could care less about the colors ,i think he would keep the blue and white ,since those are the colors of his country ,Greece...
flowers, He would be simple roses ..there my fave'.s ..nothing fancy ..the dresses would be Simple ..the men would gte to wear jeans and tshirts ..
Things that would matter to him would be that we definately get married in a greek church...As for food ,he's a chef , no way would we get burgers and fries , that would be more My style ..lol..Not his .. If he could , he would cook the meal himself :)..and it would be fancy ..
In a strange way I think it would look really similar to what I have in mind because we talk about it so much. We have really similar taste. The main difference is that he's not a really good bargain hunter and doesn't obsess on wedding blogs!!!
He's suit shopping today by himself and I totally trust him, he's the one who is going to wear it!
steak and potatoes for dinner, with a salad with ranch dressing.
There'd be beer and wine
The attendants would just wear nice suits and he'd probably say red dresses since he knows all the chio's already have red dresses.
it'd be very low key, to say the least. pretty sure he'd call everyone in lieu of invites haha
Actually i'd have faith in him--he managed to plan a military ball so he's not completely uneducated about nice parties =]
Oooh I love this thread!
He'd have a reception of steak. And more steak. Maybe a salad and some baked potatoes all the way. No cake. He is not a huge dessert guy
Instead of cutting the cake, or have a wedding cake with layers of cake stacked,we'd have steaks stacked one on top of another, a steak tower with a petite filet on top which we'd have the little bride and groom figurine on top of!
He'd wear probably his khakis and something. Who knows.
There would be NO COLOR SCHEME except for saying that the guys can wear anything BUT pink.
And the rule for me and the girls would be easy and simple. Look hot.
And they'd serve on tap Fat Tire beer. His fave. Maybe some Guiness for the guys. And bourbon based drinks.
Yep. That's how this would go down.
We'd say our vows on a dock somewhere, then we'd jump into his kayak and paddle away.
The "steak cake" would probably look something like this.
I'd best not show it to T, for he'd want me to do something like this with my famous meatloaf I do once a week at his request!
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haha I think if I left it to my guy to do all of the planning I would end up with a very nice dress.... the showed way too much boob. He'd wear a nice suit or tux... that cost as much as my dress. We'd probably get married out of the country with just my parents and his mom. We'd go to a mexican restaurant for our "reception." There would be no dancing. hahaha.
This is why we plan :)
Fun thread! If my husband would have planned our wedding:
Our colors would have been either black & gold (Steelers) or blue (his fave)
We would have had pizza for dinner. He handled the bar so that would have stayed the same-open bar-beer, wine, liquor.
He loved loved loved my dress so I think he would have picked something similar, though maybe shorter-above the knee.
He probably would have emailed/texted/called people to invite them to the wedding.
@The immigrant bride: Where in Quebec? That's where my Hubby is from!
My guy relied on me for most of the stuff during the planning process, I am a good bargain hunter and very organized. But I know that if he had to do it all on his own, he would pull off a great party! Maybe the details wouldn't have been as coordinated as they were for ours, but he is the one who planned the Ceremony (I am not religious and didn't have much involvement in this) and talked with a lot of the vendors.
He may have forgotten a few things though, like the catering tent or directions for guests to the reception. It would have worked out though I bet!
I think we're pretty much on the same page. But if it were up to him it would be either on a boat or at a yacht club, somewhere near the water and full of people who love to sail. He would wear his uniform and at some point he'd change into shorts and flip flops. There would be lots and lots of beer, probably a whole pig being roasted, and there would have to be a live band. He told me once that he pictured me in a Monique Lhullier gown, I think it was Scarlet (he didn't say Monique Lhullier, he said "that one" when I was watching Say Yes to The Dress). Actually, I would like that wedding, maybe I will let him plan it!
There was actually one of those wedding shows where the grooms cake was shepherd's pie with whipped potato 'frosting.' His mom made it. He was so happy!
We actually let our guys wear khaki's and blue blazers. Who doesn't need those? Rather than spending money on a tux, each groomsman now had a 'uniform' they could wear to other weddings, interviews, religious services, etc.
He didn't want girly food, so we went w/a buffet so everyone could eat as much as they wanted or as little as they wanted. He didn't want a buffet; but we had to make a compromise. No caterer worth their salt is going to serve plated dinners that look like an animal trough. But a buffet works so well!!
I insisted no beers in bottles. Hello? Even the cbartenders disregarded that request. We couldn't provide cold glasses in a field and we knew that a cold beer was very important to him. So we had crystal wine glasses and beer bottles. What can you do? If you want your man to be happy with the wedding and the day, we have to realize it is his day, too. People were so into the reception and dancing...I let the bottles be. We just won't order photos where people holding beer bottles was captured for time in memoriam! In the long run, who except me will remember people drank out of bottles! I still don't like it; but I kinda knew he was going to talk to the bartender. We have to pick our fights. This one wasn't worth it!
Great thread! When we first got engaged and I started planning, he said, why do we have to plan anything, can't we just show up? Seriously, I'm not kidding, he actually said that. Obviously, I'm the planner in this relationship...but I can't complain too much - he designed the save the dates and the invitations - they turned out great and were so personal - saved us a lot of money!
We'd get up go to the gym and then shower and change. He'd wear his favority Hugo Boss suit and ask me which tie I liked better and then pick the other one, since my choice would be too loud for his taste. My dress would be fitted throughout and show some cleavage and my hair would be down, with little or no make-up. Then we'd pick up his parents and mine, and head to City Hall for the actual ceremony. After we finished the ceremony, we'd make a healthy meal at home. We'd then go on a tandem bike ride thoughout the city in the afternoon and take in the views. We'd finish the night by having sushi and beer with good friends.
Ours would be @ BBQ, followed by party @ a club... I know cause i've asked him this question before... lol
Actually it might have been more formal than the one we had! Or at least he would have worn a tux, he loves dressing up. Other than that, I think it would have been fairly similar. Everything was outside and casual but nice. We had simple but delicious food, plenty of beer and wine and lots of dancing into the night. He had a lot of input (I couldn't have done it without him) and it was perfect for us. I will say our colors probably would have tended more towards blue than purple, but our color scheme wasn't exactly prominant anyways. And it definitely would have cost a lot more. He's not as stubborn about finding the best deal as I am.
This is a fun thread! I'm glad to see that I'm not the only one that has a FI with formal taste! We would have had the wedding in a cathedral with a black tie reception. It would have been much more formal and traditional... but if he was handling the logistics, it would never actually happen because he is a procrastinator and not a planner!
Having said that, he is totally on board with the wedding we are having now, and I think he is glad we are being a little nontraditional. He had no concept of what the "traditional" stuff (filet mignon, 5 piece band, etc.) cost!
@pinksuperhero - I LOVE dont tell the bride. best. show. ever. LOL
but i do think its cute that the guys end up doing a really good job most of the time. they pay attention when we think they arent!
Oh! I love this!! For the most part, FI is pretty good about helping me plan. Except, sometimes when I ask him about something, his reaction is either, NO, Yes, or ehh...
But here is his dream wedding:
Everything except my dress would be black (he's red-green color blind, black is the only color he's really sure of). Our wedding would be in either Vegas or St. Thomas with just our immediate families. Food would be ribs or snow crab legs, except my dish would probably be rice or pasta, since I'm vegetarian. Our music would probably only consist of lots of trash metal and techno. And, it would take place tomorrow.
::sigh:: oh FI, I love you and your silly ideas so much! :)
If my groom to be planned the whole wedding everything would have to do with cars or paintball. Who knows what the colors would be!
there's a member, jamaciabride, who's fiance actually planned their wedding. she doesn't know much, just found out the date recently, but i can't wait to hear about it!
my guy once, out of the blue, said when we get married, we should just pick a date in like, 2 weeks, and get married. then he thought about it and decided that wouldn't work. lol. but i did tell him he's responsible for planning our elopement ceremony so i guess i'll find out eventually what will happen. lol
our wedding would be so much fancier if my fi planned it! and so much larger. the colors would be interesting, as he doesn't see colors.
When we get engaged, boy am I ready for the onslaught of boy culture goodness he's going to suggest.
He'd probably want a low-key wedding at a cheeseburger joint with bob marley on the jukebox and a cake in the shape of James Bond, hahaha. I would be wearing a sheath with lots of "tasteful" cleavage ( he was careful to include the word "tasteful" when we talked about this once. Clever, mr. galacticstallion, CLEVER), my hair would be down and brigette-bardot-esque (aka bedroom hair...uh huh). He would be in his silver Air Jordans and a casual suit. We would be married, eat burgers with friends and family, and then watch Bollywood movies. Sounds pretty fun, actually, but not my idea of a wedding. I think when we are engaged, I'll surprise him by including at least one of his ideas :) I love me some burgers and Bollywood.
I will be finding out exactly what FI planned in 9 days!!! YAY!! I can't wait...I know that it's going to be magnificent and I will dedicate a thread to his greatness when we return from Jamaica. We will be flying out in 7 days!! Of course I will have pics to share and all of that good stuff. I may not be around much this week b/c I have quite a few things to get done as far as getting myself, my daughter, and my dog all squared away......
I'd probably be just as nervous about it! As someone said earlier, there is a show on BBC that does it - the groom only gets a week to prepare and doesn't get to see the bride at all during the week so all that the bride can do is wait for a dress to arrive (that the groom picks out) and cross her fingers and hope.
Though I'm pretty sure that Mr Moo would do something similar to what we've planned. Probably with a lot less people. I'm sure if we had a backyard big enough he'd go for that (heck - I would too!) but I'd like to think we've struck a happy medium for what we both would like.
If he planned it, we would probably have the reception at a restaurant famous for ribs. I just can't imagine trying to eat ribs in a white dress.
Ours would be a DW. I had to beg to have a wedding with people there!
We just talked about this the other day. He has much fancier taste than I do. If he had to plan everything it would be your standard wedding. Since he has been in a few, he has this idea of how everything is supposed to be. Groom and GM wear black tuxes, with a colored vest (barf). BM's all wear matching, floor length dresses. Ceremony at a church, get on the limo-bus to go to the country club. We'd get married at his country club, probably have Steak and Chicken for dinner.
And oddly enough, there would be a photobooth, because the last wedding he was at had one and he thought it was really fun.
And this cake.
If he planned. Everything would be black and there would be a punk band. Hmmm, but then again he has put in some info that surprised me. Like caring what older people thought. I told him that when I got up to the alter that we should take a shot to calm our nerves and he pooped on that! So maybe if it were up to him, everything would still be in black. We'd have rock-a-billy all night. We'd be eating my famous Mac and Cheese, and tacos. I dunno, maybe I SHOULD let him plan!
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perhaps this has been asked on the boards before... but I wonder what the world would be like if the GROOM-TO-BE planned most or all of the wedding! :)
I know for myself, Mr. Groom-to-be gives input and stuff, but he's not scouring the internet and straining his eyes looking at 5 different shades of green or trying to find his groomsmen the best deal on their suits or looking at 10 different kinds of chairs and making spreadsheets of which is the best deal. He cares and he wants to be involved... when I want him to be, but I'm sure he's glad I'm doing most of the work (... because I care more about the details)? I think he just wants to get married and will put up with the festivities to get there
I know I've heard of many other brides trying to get their guy involved or saying that they're doing most of the work/planning.
What do you think the world would be like if grooms planned most or all of the wedding? Would everything be in shades of black, grey, blue and green? Would burgers and beer replace fancy chicken dishes and champagne? Would there be no flowers?