(Closed) A dear Abby post..your opinions please

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What would you do?
    Tell him to end all contact : (115 votes)
    46 %
    Live with it and try to trust him : (1 votes)
    0 %
    File for divorce and hope a house falls on the witch next door : (136 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9826 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    It would be a moot point, because he wouldn’t be my husband anymore.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    @KatyElle:  +1. He could continue fraternizing her all he wanted, because I wouldn’t be in the picture. Or he’d be dead. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    IF we stayed married, there would be NO contact. The nerve of that man!

    Post # 7
    Member
    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I very shamefully was once the other woman, and the man and his wife were insistent that we all remain friends. They kept screaming at me about how immature I was to not want any further contact. It was so very odd – I understand his motivation but will never get hers. I had to threaten them with restraining orders 18 months after it ended – they wouldn’t stop contacting me to be friends.

    So no, I don’t think that a friendship post-affair is reasonable.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    What did Abby say?  In my case, without knowing any other details…. it’s divorce time.  I also wouldn’t stand for any continued contact with the other woman if for some reason we stayed together.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    What?! What day was this? What did Abby say? What an asshole. I can’t imagine seeking advice if I were the wife. It would be one thing staying with him because he was remorseful and begging for forgiveness and deeply ashamed. But he seems like he doesn’t see anything wrong with what he did!

    Post # 10
    Member
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I voted to end all contact but I would seriously consider a divorce.  Gosh, he is so lucky nobody cut any body part off!  The neighbor’s husband and the wife are too good if everyone is still considering being friends with each other!

    Post # 11
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @KatyElle:  yup! and good luck to further “socializing” as he may be missing some necessary parts…….

     

     

    Post # 13
    Member
    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    That man would be looking for a place to stay … if he was still alive

    Post # 15
    Member
    1579 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    Wow… yeah no. We would not be friends. At all. 

    Post # 16
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    1719 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’ll be a divorce for me.  It is one thing to have an affair with some fling but to have an affair with a neighbor/friend, makes a bad situation 10x worse.  Seeing her face/house/car/etc will be a constant reminder of how blinded I was to all of this.  UGH. 

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