- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
So we are planning a wedding for this November. The first week to be exact. I knew it would be hard but I didn’t think it’d be this hard. With all my friends and family on the east coast, I find myself researching and stuff by myself when the typical bride is doing it with her girlfriends. Don’t get me wrong the mister does his share when he can and we both go together to look at venues but I get so jealous and upset when I hear about girls going with their moms and dads and FH. Anyway I’m going off on a tangent.
So I have this habit of worrying, really worrying over our guest list. I’m like so afraid that out of the 40ish people we invite only 10 will show. Like FH says “That’s great! That’s less money for us to have to spend!” lol Yes obviously that’s wonderful but it sucks because I want all those people to be able to see all the hard work we put into the planning and decorating etc. I want our close friends and family to be with us on that day. I keep going over the guest list and trying to think about things like “OH theres cousin Kim she’s got two kids..is having the wedding close to Christmas a sure fire way to get a “not attending” response from her family?” for the obvious reasons like money. I have been updating people on the status of the wedding and I’m getting empty responses. “Oh idk, maybe depends on xyz”. I’m getting really discouraged.
What my problem is (besides the main ones that I’ve already mentioned) is I keep tailoring my wedding around my guests. I keep being told by (mom, FH, fmil, moh) that I shouldn’t do that because it’s our wedding day and we can only do so much to please people. If they can make it that’s wonderful for everyone else, they’re losing out.
I had a hard time settling on a date, if I do it in September, it’s less notice for my guests and will also cost more money for us..if I do it in November it’s closer to holidays. What should I do? I don’t want to wait until next spring because of my husbands job and because I want to wear my dress sooner than later (I’ve had it since June!). Is there nothing I can do?
Can anyone planning a wedding similar to this give me advice or share their story? Thanks girls.