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Completely hypothetical. Someone very dear to you is on their deathbed. Their last words are a request that you name your next child after them.
Do you do it?
I say it depends, but not on the popularity of the name. It depends on the person. Is it a relative, someone you are close to, or just someone you know. I really do hope this is a hypothetical. I cant imagine asking someone to name their kid after me...its their decision what the name is, not yours! :)
If i like the name and the person yes. if i don't like the name then maybe it would a middle name or a name that is similar. If i don't like the person than no!
i would never promise to name my child something that i did not love or that was odd. i think if someone was on their deathbed asking me to... i would say sure to comfort them. which sounds horrible.... and prolly is.... but o well.
My DH says he would tell them he would, then he wouldn't. Because "who would know?" LOL!
I don't know who would ask this of anyone, that is my confusion. I may name my child after someone I cared dearly for but it would be offputting if they asked or told me to name my child after them.
I can't imagine that happening either, doesn't a dying person have more important things to worry about?
If it was a person I was close to and wanted to honour, I would probably use the name as a middle name. Although I am someone who doesn't like being told what to do, so maybe I wouldn't, just to prove a point. Like others I'd probably agree in the heat of the moment whether I liked the person or not, just to avoid an awkward death bed conversation about how much I liked them.
It would depend on my relationship with the person. I don't have an issue with giving a child the name of a loved one, but it would have to be a very special person. Perhaps if I did not like the name, I would find something similiar or shorter that I did.
Yuuki's middle name is the name of my husband's biological mom. She died when he was 7, and from what I hear, she was a wonderful woman I would have loved to meet. We've even discussed other relatives names for if we were to have 3 girls (He chose the first girl's name. I have pick of the second girl's name, and we agreed on a third should it happen).
I would be weirded out, personally, unless it was someone we knew VERY well (like one of our parents/grandparents). But then, we're not planning on having kids so I can't see that situation arising, haha.
Maybe a middle name if I LOVED the person. Otherwise I really don't think they'll care once their dead.
It's a Jewish custom that you can name a baby after someone by choosing a name that starts with the same letter as their name. This gives you a lot more flexibility in terms of naming your child after someone you care a great deal about, even if you don't love their name.
It depends on the person and the name. If it were a close relative or friend, and if I liked his or her name, I would probably do it. But I wouldn't give a child a name I hated just to make someone else happy.
It depends on the person. If it was a very close relative, I'd consider it. In the Jewish religion, we usually use the first initial and find a name we like from that...so I'm going to use C or M for my grandparents. I have lots of M names I like, not so many C's but I will find one
This may be selfish but if it wasn't a name I loved, no way. I love my grandma that passed away but her name was Phyllis. I hope I can maybe come up with a way to still name a child after her and honor her, but it won't be Phyllis. It also would have to do with the closeness of the person.
This is slightly off-topic but I personally think it's kind of selfish for someone to request you name a child after them as a dying wish. It's sort of self-important and puts a ton of unfair pressure on people. Yes, I realize the question is merely hypothetical...
I'd consider a middle name if I or my hubbs was close to the person - but I can't imagine this happening, because I don't think we know anyone who would be inclined to make such a request.
I wouldn't. I don't find it creepy, I just wouldn't. I'm the type that would probably absolutely not consider it (even if it was a contender before the request) because it's such an absurd thing to ask someone!
it would depend on the name AND the person to me.
I'm not going to stick my daughter with a name like Edna, no matter how much I love my grandma (no, Edna isn't my g'ma's real name, but she does have a definite old lady name - no offense intended to any Ednas out there). I'm also not going to name my child after some random relative.
I think it would really depend on the person, because I don't feel like a person who would want that to be their last wish would be a person that I wouldn't want to honor with naming a child after them. So I probably would, almost everyone in my family has a middle name that is in honor of an older relative so it's not really that odd to me, but nobody has ever requested that a child be named after them. My little sisters middle name was picked right after my great aunt lost a child in honor of her.
Depends on so many things: who the person is, what the name is, etc. And it may end up being a middle name.
I think it would be more likely that the person would ask you to name the child after someone else as their dying wish, like their spouse. Still, I am not sure I would do it! Maybe as a middle name.
I think its super selfish to ask anyone else to name their child after you! (especially on your deathbed...what a guilt-trip!)
I might say I would to make their last moments better, but I wouldn't do it, unless we already had liked that name for our child.
Name and person matter. I'm torn about naming my son Charlie (well, Charles, but definitely using the nickname Charlie.) It's the name of an old friend who died when I was 13, at the age of 102 - he'd served in both world wars, and befriended me when I was six. Really cool guy. However, it's also the name of my psycho ex (Charles). Maybe, since my guy vetoed Rebecca (my mom's name and his sister's name), I could use Charlotte as my back up girls' name...
FI's grandmother (who he was really close to) asked him to name his [hypothetical] son (btw, he was single at the time--this was years before i was around) after her husband right before she died. i'm not a huge fan of the name but we have discussed that we will use an americanized version of the name as a middle name. to me, using it as a middle name is good compromise--you fulfill the promise without having to call your child a name you don't like.
That's pretty ballsy to even request that in the first place and rude.
I would say "We'll see." You aren't saying yes and you aren't saying on.
LOL, I'm giggling at the responses. It was just something that popped in my head, it hasn't actually happened to us or anything. But it's something I could see my Nana doing, and like DDW, my Nana has an old lady name. Plus my dad hates her. And my mom. And anyone else who's ever met the crotchety woman. I could TOTALLY see her asking this, if I happened to be present on her deathbed, which thank goodness isn't likely.
I think I would feel obligated to honor the promise if I made it, and I'd probably feel obligated to say yes if they were dying. Even if I didn't like them. I believe in ghosts, and I'd rather have a guardian than a haunt.
In any case, I'd try to use an anagram within a name I liked already. That straddles the line a bit, but I'd feel ok with it.
I guess it would depend on how exactly they asked and how the whole situation played out. That and of course how close we were to them and the name.
If its your mother, father, best friend or someone very close to you I would do it. Otherwise they might become a middle name.
I think it definitely depends on the person and what your relationship with them is. I could see using it for a middle name if you don't really love it as a first name though.
Nope, I wouldn't do it. Well it would depend on who it was, then maybe... I think its selfish for someone to request something like that anyway.
I don't like naming children after people in general, so...probably not. : /
I plan to name my child after my father, who passed away when I was 21. If I already had a name reserved, then that person would have to wait... and it would prob. have to be normal.
I would never name my child after anyone I know no matter what. I already have my mom's middle name and can't stand that, and my FI has his Dad's first and middle name, and then a second middle name, which is the name he goes by because he doesn't like the other two! So no, my kid gets their own unique name. Not to be mean, but I really don't see what the dying person would get out of that anyway.
Yes, if I was very close to them and my FH agrees. It's not only my decision, so I chose 'other'.
If there's a miracle and we have a daughter, we actually will be naming her after both my husband's grandmother and great aunt, who were both much loved and idolized by all of the family. There was no requests for this, but we know it will thrill everyone, especially since both women have passed. It helps that I love both names.
As far as the actual question, I can't think of anyone who would ask this of us, at least not anyone close to us, which is the only circumstance under which I can even begin to imagine agreeing. It would have to be someone really close to us, and would have to be a name I could at least tolerate (and then, live PPs, I would make it a middle name).
Depends on the name. If it's an odd one or not one I'd have been drawn to, I might use their first OR middle as a middle name for my child.
It would be a really odd situation, though. I actually made a pact with my brother that neither one of us, should we marry or have kids, would repeat common names used in our family history. My brother is the 5th generation named the same name, (or a variation of) it's getting a bit old. In addition, my husband and I will NOT name our child something that has become too trendy, being both people with names like that. 5 kids in the class with the same name? Not gonna happen. If a name we'd consider is in the top 10 baby names that year, that cuts out the possibility of using that name.
It definitely depends on who is asking haha. If it's my mom, dad, brother, my grandma (we're very close and she and my mom have the same name) or my oma (who had the same name as my opa, who passed away recently) then I would do it in a heartbeat. If it was anyone else then I would consider adding it as a middle name depending on how close we were. No matter who asked I'd probably end up saying yes and then feeling guilty about it later. I wouldn't want to say no and bring them tons of feelings of sadness or embarassment.
haha is it wrong that as soon as a read this question I thought of the ending of The Proposal when the grandma fakes a heartattack and then when she gets what she wants she's all of a sudden "cured" ahaha? If the person doesn't actually die would you still follow through on the request you agreed to?
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