A few guests offended that we pushed back our wedding

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This would drive me up the wall! Some people can be really rude and just forget that this is YOUR wedding. You can’t please everyone, just worry about yourself.

Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@NYMeetsPA:  People are so self-absorbed sometimes, ugh ! Are they helping you pay the bill? No ? They they need to shut up, seriously. 

Post # 5
3988 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m sorry, that is incredibly annoying to deal with. Forget them and keep doing what’s best for you guys. People are always full of advice on what your wedding should be and are not afraid to tell you point blank. Good for you for doing what’s best for you as a couple!

Post # 7
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That sucks.  Pushing back the date is hardly unheard of and many people have long engagements.  Maybe you just shouldnt invite those complainers.  They aparently wouldn’t have a problem is you called off the big wedding and eloped instead, since they don’t think a wedding is worth it.  Why would they want to come and eat the food you paid for and enjoy the party you throw if it’s not worth it?

(I know you probably still have to invite them, I just think they’re being very rude and hypocritical if they attend).


Post # 8
11598 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Is there a chance that these were facetious comments that you’re reading too much into?  Or, that they aren’t criticizing the pushing back your wedding so much as the waiting a year to start your married life together?

I’d be annoyed by the comments, but I’d try not to read too much into them.  If you’re okay with the decision, that’s all that matters.

Post # 11
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@NYMeetsPA:  I’m a bit confused, it sounds like you sent your STDs out with your original date.

If that’s the case, I can see why people would be a bit annoyed.  Some people need to book off work well in advance.  It affects other future plans, vacations, etc.  As it is, some people already view STDs as a bit self-centred (personally, I don’t have a problem with them) and then you haven’t even followed through with the date.

I am sorry people are giving you a tough time though.  That doesn’t help with anything.

Post # 13
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@NYMeetsPA:  Who says you can’t uninvite them? 😉 (I kid, I kid… not really)

If they’d rather you elope than postpone, they’re essentially saying they don’t care to be there anyway, since with elopement, they wouldn’t be there for the wedding.

So what does it matter if you’re postponing the wedding and don’t invite them? Or they can decline the new date… either way. 

I can understand if they’ve already asked for the time off or made non-refundable arrangements, but at the end of the day, whoever pays, says!

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