- Miss T-Rex
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
I can’t believe I have a FI, I cannot believe I’m going to be Mrs T-Rex in less than 73 days, so with this I’m going to share a story with you all to keep in mind….
While on a trip down to his parents, he decided to retell a “funny” story his boss had shared about when his boss and wife were dating (at the 5 year anniversary) when they went down to Florida on a vacation, and how on the last day she broke down in tears and told his boss that she thought he was going to propose.
Real funny, right?
My FI thought it was hilarious, while I became angry and called him and his boss some rather choice words. My FI had no idea why I was upset and I had no sympathy to indulge him at the moment because I was hurt that he was THAT clueless. So we finally dropped it half an hour later because all I was going was being mean and it was getting him nowhere.
The next weekend while shopping he brought it up again. This time I tried to explain the best I could without bursting into tears how not too long ago I had cried because I had thought he was going to propose, several times in fact, how HE had gotten my hopes up only to crush me, how while I knew he loved me sincerely believed he didn’t love me ENOUGH to marry me and no reassurance other than a ring and a date would change that.
He stopped walking and got very quiet. He finally looked me in the eyes with a sad realization of what his, while clueless nonetheless hurtful, inactions had done, held my hand and said, “I’m sorry.”
He said he hadn’t been ready before, but he knew that once he was sure he wanted to be with me, he couldn’t wait any longer and that he wished our wedding wasn’t 2 1/2 months away but tomorrow because he wanted to prove how much he loves me.
It was quick to forgive, but he knows now to never laugh at a woman who is in waiting.
I share this because I want to tell ALL of you that you can’t rush them, that not talking about it will help things, nor will talking about it constantly. They come to it all on their own, and while my timeline came and went 3 months before he proposed I waited, because he was worth it. Only you know when to let go and walk away and when to stay, I stayed because he was it. The One.
So, its a very bittersweet farewell to all of you. You have no idea how your posts, stories and comments have helped me over the past year. I’ve cried, smiled and felt a serious connection to each of you because of our similarities. So,
THANK YOU BEES!
I wish all of you happiness wherever and with whomever it lies.