Post # 1
I am starting this post based on the cash bar posting. We have a different situation, so I would like to get opinions if you were a guest what would you rather.
I’ll give a bit of a background of what i’m asking.
At my venue, we can provide a food option (chicken or beef) for an extra $10/person, the reason being is they get served as you would in a restaurant and not have to choose ahead of time and remember what you picked.
We would also like to provide alcohol. We will be providing beer and wine with appetizers during cocktails and wine during dinner.
Now for the after dinner party,and let me start by saying all non-alcoholic drinks are free at all times. We were thinking of having beer, wine and a couple popular liquor drinks for free all night, only if we decided not to give a food option (and everyone eats chicken) or have a twoonie bar ($2 a drink), we will let everyone know ahead of time to bring money (which I realize is tacky but more about that later) or only have beer and wine and have the option of paying for the liquor.
For the cash vs open bar, if it’s common in my area, I found it depended if the parents were paying. Most of my fiance’s friends have had open bar but I know at least 75% of them had financial help and the few that had cash bar did not have the financial help, but they had great food. We are getting minimal financial help from our parents, therefore we cannot afford to have food options and open bar all night. With $2 a drink, i’ve heard this cuts the amount of drinks people waste and it’s still a great deal, 5 drinks for $10.
Post # 3
I think chicken only is perfectly fine, (as long as there is a vegetarian exception).
Post # 4
I am definitely a fan of open bars (and very “anti-cash bars,” but I havent’ even opened the other thread 😛 ) but I think that having beer/wine available for free *should* make almost everyone happy, if that’s a financial possiblity.
I’ve been to weddings that were *only* beer/wine bars, and everyone was pretty happy, so even having the option to pay for liquor is nice!
I think whether you only offer chicken depends on how many other “side dishes” there are. (Ask yourself- could someone make a meal out of the side dishes if they wanted? If so, then it might be ok to just offer that.)
Post # 5
I don’t drink wine or beer so I voted hands down just chicken (but if you have vegetarians you’ll probably need to figure out something for them)
Post # 6
There is a vegetarian option, as I am one myself that would be important and I know three other guests are.
I feel like people would remember buying alcohol (any kind) more than not having a food option.
And there definitely needs to have the option of having liquor, otherwise the party could become dull for some. I don’t want them leaving early.
Post # 7
@Meowkers: That’s all I was going to say, too!
As long as you have a veggie option, go with the chicken. As a guest, trrrrrrrrrust me, I’d rather have the alcohol than the option.
Post # 8
@Juliepants I couldn’t have said it better myself!
Post # 9
I agree with PPs, no food option and a full bar.
Post # 10
I would rather have a food option (but then again, I don’t really drink, so grain of salt I guess).
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL
Fiance and I didn’t like any of the chicken options offered, so we went with a duet plate of filet mignon and crab-stuffed shrimp. It sounds fancy, but was cheaper to do it that way than having a choice of plate. We are also having an unlimited tray cocktail hour and open bar all night, so people should be fairly full by the time dinner is served 🙂
Post # 12
Wow, I would love $2/drink option! So I voted for the first one, but then I realized I really wanted to vote for the third one.
Post # 13
I think beer and wine plus a choice in meal would be better. I may just be picky but I don’t like much chicken and mass produced chicken like a wedding is really not my favorite. But I would say, know your crowd. Are they wine/beer people or will they want more hard liquor?