Post # 1
I could do this… right? We thought we had a year. Now we want to move it up, and Jan seems to be the only option.
I do mostly have the summer free to sort stuff out. And we’d have to accept that many vendors would be booked. But aside from that…?
This is in wellness because of potential stress and also I think this is an insane idea, but I’m excited about it and happy with it all the same 🙂
Also, should I be worried that this comes on top of a 5 month pre-engagement relationship? We did know each other for a couple of years beforehand at least. We’d be man and wife before our one-year (of dating) anniversary!
Post # 3
*shrugs* The length of a relationship doesn’t define the quality. My grandparents were engaged after four months of knowing each other, and my aunt got engaged and a week later had her wedding, making her engagement period a grand total of seven days. If you want it to happen, you can totally make it happen!
Post # 4
No worries you can totally do it!!! I got engaged after 8 months of dating, planned a wedding in 4 months too (had to be cancelled 🙁 not because of relationship issues) My FMIL and FFIL got engaged after a week of dating and are still together 27 years later!
Post # 5
after i started planning, i had a convo with my mom and learned that my mom and dad had a 4 mos engagement after dating 2 years…so, whatever works! they have been together for 27 years now. =)
Post # 6
It’s doable =]. My SIL got engaged and married within 3 months because DH was going to deploy and she wanted her brother there. It ended up costing her more money (because obviously you can only DIY so much in 3 months and she really needed a coordinator) but she pulled off a very nice wedding.
I don’t think I could jump into something so quickly, but I know peopel who have who make it work. I just know that I have dated lots of “amazing” people for a few months, thought they were the “one” and things hit the fan a few years later. I’m quite jaded after seeing a few of my friends go through some hardships, but that’s just *me* and I’m very analytical like that. My parents dated for 6 years, my grandparents 6 months, and my aunt’s been married over 12 times =].
But, if you have to ask yourself if you should be worried, sit down with your FI and talk about what issues you think could come up in the future. Maybe you haven’t hit every nail on the head? Perhaps work through a workbook together or something so that you feel more comfortable about having investigated all the nooks and crannies of your relationship in a more head-on manner, versus it naturally happening over a few years.
Post # 7
Can we ask what is motivating you to move up the wedding so far??? My only concern would be the reasoning and making sure that you are both totally prepared. Have you done any pre-wedding counseling?? I think as long as you are ready and are aware that it is going to take a lot of planning and a lot of time, I know several people who have had 3 to 5 month engagements.
Post # 8
You can do it, just make sure you have a clear vision of what you want. That way you’re not constantly adding more and more DIY projects along the way or changing everything up.
I really don’t think that the length of the relationship is a big deal, as long as you are both certain it’s time for the next step. Make sure you’re on the same page with big issues like money, kids, etc.
Post # 9
You can do it 🙂 You might be a bit more stressed in planning… but its only for 4 months!
Post # 10
I think once you’re engaged, the length of the engagement to a degree isn’t going to impact your sense of commitment—at least, not once you have started planning, which in itself is a commitment. The eight months you are losing probably wasn’t going to make much of a difference, then. Go for it! But is January a popular wedding month in NZ? You may have to be very flexible with your plans.
Post # 11
Don’t worry! You can do it! In July our Best Man got married after a 2 month engagement & they still haven’t even been together a year yet! Just know what you want & where to get it!
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
Yep! you can def. do it. I have 3 seperate girlfriends who planned in 4 months or less. January is actually a great time to plan it if you odn’t have a lot of time because it’s a slow season for the wedding industry. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised with how many vendors are still open and the off-season discounts! Good luck!
Post # 13
my parents had a 4 month engagement, and they’ve been married for 27 years 🙂 good luck!
Post # 14
oh, and i also meant to write that my parents were together only 4 months before their 4 month engagement and have been married for 27 years now. you can do it!
Post # 15
Our engagement was five months (exactly 4/12-9/12) but we didn’t start really planning until mid May, so yes it can be done!! I would say especially because Jan is an off season month, but I see you’re in NZ so I guess it must be the height! Is that going to work out for you?
Post # 16
I just had to comment that I was thrown by your “i have most of the summer free” comment. Then I realized that you are in NZ!
I think you can pull it off if you stay organized!