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A Friday Wedding????? Help!!

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    ScarletOHara    09/26/2009   Delaware

    Hello ladies,

    I need your help. We found a venue we just adore, it has the space we need, the look we love, and the price is GREAT! One prob. they only hold wedding receptions on Friday or SundayA Friday Wedding????? Help!! :  wedding friday weddings Icon Sad So my question to the best wedding guru's on the web is Are Friday wedding's a bad idea??

    We'd be holing the wedding about 6 and the reception would follow.

     

    Thanks Girls!

     
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    LNickle    May 15, 2009   Newport, RI

    We're having a Friday wedding, and we actually had a choice btw Friday and Saturday.  Friday weddings are usually cheaper, not just for the venue but also for vendors.  Beyond that, we love the idea of people making a "weekend" of our wedding.  People are able to party hard Friday night, recover Saturday morning and then still have Sunday to either tour the area or return home.  We're also planning on having a Saturday brunch for everyone, which will give us an opportunity to hang out with everyone on a more casual basis.  We're not leaving for our honeymoon until Sunday.

    The only possible problem is for people who are flying in from out of town.  They will have to take Friday off, but I don't think most people will mind, especially if you have a lot of activities planned for the weekend.

     
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    Maegan       Los Angeles

    We are having a Friday wedding too.  We purposefully chose Friday so that we could have a 3 day wedding weekend with all of our family & friends.  We have lots of events planned for the 3 days.

    We sent STD's early on so people knew it was a Friday way in advance; I think that helped.  And the feedback has been nothing but positive, people are looking forward to taking a day off work and to all the festivities.  We're having our wedding in a popular vacation town and a lot of guests are extending their stay to take advantage of that aspect too.

    Good luck with your wedding planning & have fun!

     
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    TallBride    January 24 2009   Westlake Village, Ca

    the only issue I would see is for out-of-towners. a lot of family may be driving up THAT day and a lot of people have to work.

    Where are you having the wedding? I live in LA and a 6 o'clock friday night wedding would just not work because of traffic, no one would be able to get there! (stupid traffic... A Friday Wedding????? Help!! :  wedding friday weddings Icon Mad)

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    ScarletOHara    09/26/2009   Delaware

    We live in Delaware and our traffic isn't too bad so I think everyone could get there on time. So that's a plusA Friday Wedding????? Help!! :  wedding friday weddings Icon Biggrin

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    December    December 12, 2008   Minneapolis,MN/Jackson,MS

    I'm having a Friday wedding as well, during the day, probably. Friday is not too bad if your wedding is not going to be an all day event -- family and attendants will usually have to take off of time from work, and even people who are driving from a couple of hours away could still do a half-day at work if your weddings' at six. Just make sure people know well in advance.

     
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    glittergrl    Planned my wedding in just under 6months. Had the most super fabulous enchanted, eclectic, bohemian forest wedding on the planet! :)   CA

    I'm doing a Friday wedding in August. Since it's the summer and 90% of our guests are out of town, I've encouraged people to look at this as an 'extended vacation'. We've planned festivities throughout the week and weekend.

    Plus, my chances of getting my vendors went way up by choosing a Friday.

     
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    We're also doing a Friday wedding in August. Since most people are out of towners, they're making it into a vacation, and it still allows them to leave on Saturday or Sunday to travel back. And we've gotten a discount on DJ, flowers and cake with it!

     
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    cupcake    September 20, 2008   Philadelphia

    I think a Friday evening wedding is definitely doable; just a note, though, to be mindful and understanding of the fact that not everyone has vacation time to use for your wedding.  I say this because Mr. Cupcake and I had two Friday weddings to attend within a month of each other last fall, and we both had to take a whole vacation day for one (a 2:30 ceremony far away from a majority of the couple's friends and family) and a 1/2 day for the other.  In his industry vacation time is just not as available as a lot of people, so this was not all that easy for us. I'm not saying your wedding is not important enough for people to take the time off, but just be prepared for some guests not being able to swing it (or possibly missing your ceremony). 

    PS- I went to school in Delaware.... yay for a tax-free wedding! 

     
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    katieo    October 5, 2007   Portland,OR

    We had a Friday evening wedding in October.  And all of our closest family and friends were able to put it in their schedule. If the people that matter want to be there, they'll make time for it.  In turn, we tried to make it a little later (7pm) to allow for people to get through any traffic that they might come into contact with. 

    We  also heard a lot of positive feedback from the guests based on our calendar choice...because they all were able to sleep in the next day AND they still had their entire weekend left to enjoy...and the out-of-towners made it a fun weekend in Portland, OR!  For us, it was a lot cheaper too!  TOTALLY doable! 

    Think of how many Saturdays are wedding Saturdays. It's refreshing to change things up a bit :)

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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    Ditto cupcake on the issue of vacation.  I can usually get time off when I need it, but it really depends on what's going on at work - there are times when it is quite difficult.  And my FI is a contractor - so he simply doesn't get paid when he takes a day off.  However, almost whenever you schedule your wedding you are going to find that there are some folks who have other things going on and just can't make it.  I wouldn't worry too much about it.  For locals, a Friday evening wedding shouldn't be too difficult.  And if their work schedule doesn't allow them to get there for the ceremony, they can still make it to the reception!  Our wedding is on a Saturday afternoon, and we are actually finding that most of our out-of-towners are traveling Friday morning anyway, and making a long weekend of it.  So apparently getting a day off work was not a problem for most of them!

     
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    missking    June 17, 2008  

    My wedding will be on a Tuesday (because we for sure wanted it on June 17, since the day we met), and people think we're crazy. They say that a weekend (Friday-Sunday) wedding is more practical because more people would be able to come.

     
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    caribqueen    8/8/09   Brooklyn, NY

    I think a Friday night wedding is fine, although I would take a look at who your guests are and where they are coming from. I am going to Friday wedding late in the summer, but most of the people going are local and will just be going after work, so it's max an hour drive for them  (although not for me). Do what you think is best, especially since you know your guests.

     
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    tberry      

    A Friday is fine.  I would move it to 6:30 instead of 6 so that fewer people need to leave work early.  The less people feel rushed getting ready for the wedding the more relaxed they wll be and the more they wil enjoy themselves.

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    GetMarried4Less    November 1st, 2008   SC

    i think this is a fine idea! you'll probably save some money here and there and like those mentioned above, the most important people in your life will no doubt be there.

    it wont work for everyone, but no day works for everyone. as long as you are prepared for that, then everything should work well!

     
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    Yah for Friday weddings.  We are having a Friday evening wedding as well.  And so far no one has complain about the date.  In addition 90% of our guest are out of town.  As others have mention, most are just making a long weekend out of it and flights are cheaper for those that are flying in on Wed or a Thurs. 

     
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    MJ    February 16, 2008   NY/CT

    I agree with cupcake.  While it is sometime necessary/desired by the couple to have a Friday wedding, it is often hard on some guests.  If it's the perfect place, do it, just be understanding.  I had a friend that was very much "people will make time if they care" without understanding that it's not a matter of care, it's a matter of work!

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    i was considering a friday wedding but decided on a different venue. but i was really worried too...i asked everyone what they thought~ most ppl think its fine if its in the fri evening. a couple of ppl who have to drive far will find it annoying since friday pm rush hour is insane and they couldn't change before the wedding. you might peeve a few ppl but i think most of your guests will be accomodating. for out of town guests, it depends on where they're from. if they come from far, they'll make a holiday out of it and its no big deal. folks who live somewhat close and are just taking a w/e holiday may find it annoying that they have to fly in fri am or thurs pm. but the good news is that tickets are usually cheaper! (althought they'll probably have to get an extra night in a hotel).

     
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    We are having a Friday wedding in July!

    Only one person complained so far. Everyone else was glad to take a day off work. We have a high volume of teachers in my family too so it won't effect them!

    Most places are literally thousands cheaper on Friday or Sunday! We opted for a Friday so we still have time with out of towners on Saturday to have brunch and just relax with before they have to leave.

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    SoCalBeachGirl    07/07   Boston, MA

    We got married on a Thursday, due to a last-minute venue change to accommodate our families.  175 people showed up, with NO complaints.  The people who love you will want to be there, but know that there will be some people who just can't make it.

    The locals took it as a reason to have a 4-day weekend, the out-of-towners are going to have to fly in anyway, so they made an extended vacation out of it, too.

    The big consideration we made is to have the ceremony at 4:30 to allow for people to miss the heavy rush-hour traffic, had we started later in the evening.  Worked like a charm, everyone left work around noon to gussy up for the wedding and made it in plenty of time.

    The earlier start-time allowed us to capitalize on daylight for pictures, and more time at the reception to celebrate with our friends. 

     
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    ScarletOHara    09/26/2009   Delaware

    Ladies you have given me piece of mind, we're going for it!!!!

     
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    Angel    July 15, 2005   Snohomish County, Washington State

    Friday weddings are just as lovely. Have a great one!

     

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