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Write her a nice letter and tell her that you are sorry for her loss. One of the toughest things women (and couples) in this situation have to deal with is that everyone tiptoes around the subject . They have just lost their baby.
Tuck in a gift card for a restaurant or takeout place near where she lives.
She is probably not going to want to talk much about it right now or do much. She is greiving so I would see if you can have a local restaurant deliver some food so she doesnt have to worry about feeding herself and anyone else she lives with.
Flowers are nice, but not useful, and as a friend I would want to be more useful.
I agree with everything that PP said. I do think that flowers are appropriate. The worst thing that someone can do is just ignore it. I would just let her know that you're available whenever she is ready to talk about it and maybe just a message or a text here and there letting her know that you're thinking about her.
Maybe, along with a letter, you can send her a little care package. Something in her favorite scent. Her favorite snack. I know, if it were me.. and it has been before, that Pepsi and Oreos are my go to everytime.
I agree with the nice letter and thoughtful little gift. Just the fact that someone was thinking about her will lift her spirits a little. Sorry for your friend, prayers and hugs.
@kitcat12:I love the care package idea.
I know that during my MC I was on bedrest for 2 weeks. I had a lot of books but I didn't even feel like putting thought process into reading. Maybe if you could include in the care package a movie that you could get for like $5 at Target or something? I know I would've really appreciated that.
My friend lost her baby at 12weeks she has a son already, she was still very heart broken about it. So I went over to her house cooked her some dinner did a couple of loads of laundry to lighten her load *they are often in pain and bleeding alot* I gave her son a bath and put him to bed for the night. She and her mother were so thankful for me just being there. We didnt talk about the situation for a whole month I just went and tried to be a good friend.
A letter. Not a get well card or anything cheesy! Just a simple note. I like the care package idea.. A dvd, soothing lavender candle.
Hi there! I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I am a NICU nurse and work in a very large NiCU we have babies that pass away and every time it happens my heart just breaks for the moms and dad. I have found the best thing to do( I have been in these situations more than once) is to simply say "I am soo sooo sorry" they just want to know someone is there and that even though you have never been in this situation you can imagine how hard it must be.. The last thing she wants to hear is.. Don't worry you will have another, or "Things happen for a reason." In these moments being in the moment and being there for them is the best. I would get a pretty card write how sorry you Are and mail it to her. She will simply feel touched that you are with her in her time of grief. Oh and when you see her give her a big hug she probably needs a good hug. Just keep it simple. Hope that helps!
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A great friend of mine recently had a misscarriage. She told me via private message on facebook which tells me she is just not ready to talk about it yet. I can only imagine what she is going through. We live 2 hours away from each other. What can I do to help? If you have gone through something similar or know of someone who has, what has been helpful? I just want to do something that wouuld give her the space she needs but still knows she has a great friend supporting her. Is flowers appropriate? Or some other great idea?