Post # 1
Does anyone have a friend where you’ve maybe grown apart for whatever reason (distance, life circumstances, etc) and when you do get a chance to talk now it’s impossible to be happy around them?
Second to that, if something isn’t great in your life, you can’t be “worse off” than she is, her situation is always the worst?
It’s driving me crazy, we just had a chat (it’s her birthday….so I initiated) and it’s ended in a bit of a blowout and I don’t think today is the day to be honest on what my problem is with her.
Said problem has been discussed amoungst other girls (we were all university roommates) and we all feel the same….and some of us have put some distance between her.
She is a great person, I just think the position she got herself into with work/life has been tough for her and while I get that, it’s not the be all end all and focal point of your remarks to a person related to everything else in life!
I am just at a loss on how to deal with it and not let it drive me crazy!
Post # 3
When you figure out how to deal with them …. can you PLEASE post it? we have one of them at work, and I’m the only one that still talks to her. It’s so bad that one of the girls almost decked her on friday. ughhh
Post # 4
I’ve had one friend like that and she is not my friend anymore. There was always so much drama surrounding her and she always had everything way worse. I was in the hospital and she came to visit me and the whole time kept talking about how much worse she was when she was sick and blah blah blah. I wasn’t sure I was doing the right thing ending our friendship but now years later it was obviously the right choice. Some people you are not meant to have lasting friendships with.
Post # 5
that’s not a friend.
it sounds like this might be a temporary thing — she’s depressed. next time you talk, tell her you’re worried, and recommend that she talks to a professional.
Post # 6
I had a similar situation and my resolution was to just distance myself. This person was like a dark cloud and I just got tired of it. It is well known amongst our other friends and just as you mentioned, we know she is a great person once you get through the muck but for me it wasn’t worth all the tip-toeing etc that had to be done around her. I didn’t even tell her about my engagement. Our other mutual friends didn’t want to tell her either. Her issues are surrounding finding love. But in the end I decided I didn’t need a friend that I couldn’t share my joys with so I just backed away. Eventually she saw my ring and said “Is that the real thing?” when I responded yes she just said oh it’s pretty. No congratulations nada. So she’s not worth my energy.
Post # 7
Friends like this i just avoid and let the friendship die a peaceful natural death