A friend's cry for help or just ignore the issue and move on?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

TrophyWife2Hubby:  If this were a close friend of mine and I were genuinely concerned, I would just respond to the next comment with my concerns. “What’s going on with you guys? I know you love him but I feel like you make a lot of comments that make you seem unsatisfied. If you’re happy, that’s great, I just want to make sure you know I’m here for you if you have something you need to talk about”

Post # 3
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

TrophyWife2Hubby:  I think you are over-analyzing her comments.  She just sounds like ‘one of those people’ whom say things to get a reaction out of others, but does not necessarily actually believe it, or feel that way.  In front of my close friends, I have made completely joking comments, of which I hope they would never take me seriously, and of which I certainly do not actually believe.  Heck, I think on my wedding day when I put on my gown, we all chuckled when I said “This is a perfect dress for my 1st marriage!” It is just in my nature to joke when I am anxious…even though he is my one AND ONLY!

So, my advice, let it go. 

Post # 4
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4819 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

TrophyWife2Hubby:  I don’t know that there’s anything you need to do with her relationship with her fiance. She doesn’t sound too nice to hang around to me personally, that’s the relationship I’d concern myself with.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

She sounds like a lady who isn’t going to be married for very long!  if she is actually a gold digger like she wants you to believe maybe a break up isn’t a bad idea

 

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

TrophyWife2Hubby:  Zactly. We really can’t tell people who they should love (even if they’re “wrong”). It’s hard to see a friend with the “wrong” person.

Post # 9
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287 posts
Helper bee

 

She just sounds like someone who makes bad jokes. I sometimes make oddly inappropriate jokes, especially when I am really nervous or excited. I’m sure she is fine.

Post # 10
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s really funny that your SN is “TrophyWife”, and you’re worried your friend might be a golddigger.

Worry about your relationship, let her worry about her’s.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

It sounds that youre more upset about her comments than actually concerned about her relationship! Dont worry about her relationship! And enjoy your marriage 🙂 

Post # 13
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461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

TrophyWife2Hubby:  Sounds like you’ll just have to endure the odd commentary. You’re a good friend for showing your concern. Hopefully the comments won’t go on forever and she gets herself together, because it can be taxing to be friends with people that concern you that much. 🙂

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