Post # 1
I’m getting married this Saturday! Yay!
The sad part is that my Uncle passed away suddelny yesterday. His viewing/funeral will be Thursday/Friday of this week. As you can imagine I’m upset, sad and totally down in the dumps. I was so looking forward to celebrating with my family and friends this weekend, and I know that our day will stil be special, but everything will be a lot more sad as he will be greatly missed.
Post # 3
I am so sorry about that! HUGS to you and your family.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry about your uncle. I can kind of relate as my grandfather passed away the morning of my wedding, if it helps at all my family was able to go forward and celebrate our marriage as we know he would have wanted.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss.
In a bittersweet way, though, it’s actually kind of nice that your family will be able to come together to grieve for your uncle and celebrate his life, and then turn their attention to your wedding as an affirmation of hope and love and the fact that life goes on. I think it would definitely be appropriate to acknowledge your uncle’s passing at the ceremony, in whatever way you feel comfortable doing, but know that it doesn’t have to be mournful. Something along the lines of “We are grateful to have such wonderful families, with whom we share life’s sorrows and it’s joys. We would like to raise a toast to the memory of (name),” and then transition to a toast to your future happiness, etc.
Post # 6
Thank you all for your kind notes. KCKnd2, thank you for that nice idea, too. We will fine a way to remember his love and life at the ceremony.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Post # 8
So sorry to hear about your loss. I’m sure your uncle will be looking down on you as you walk down the aisle! Hugs!
Post # 9
@junesun62: I cannot imagine what you must be going through, I’m really sorry to hear that. He will be there in your hearts and minds so he’ll still be there in a way.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
Aww. I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 Big hugs to you.
I definitely understand your conflicting emotions of grief as you approach your wedding. My grandfather actually passed the week before my wedding, and it was SO so hard. It ended up being a blessing (and exactly what he would have wanted) because some of my family members who weren’t coming to the wedding decided to come since his memorial was held two days afterwards.
Did I miss having him there? Absolutely. Of course. Was the weekend tinged with sadness? Yes. But honestly, a wedding is a celebration of love, and guess what? Funerals are celebrations of love and life too. You are honoring that person’s life and passing, and what better way to follow that than with a wedding? New beginnings.
Sorry, I’m rambling on. I obviously don’t want to minimize the loss (because believe me, I know that it totally sucks to lose a loved one this close to the big day), but try to focus on honoring your uncle’s memory, and know that you can still celebrate and enjoy your wedding day while grieving for his passing. BIG HUGS to you!
Post # 11
I am so very sorry! My thoughts are with your family.
Try to think about how life is all about coming and going and events happen one way or another, and people do have to push on.
Now my dad died this month, and we ended up cancelling our would be wedding for next month, but we had a few months notice as he was ill.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your thoughts and support. Friday morning was very sad, but it was good to have all of my family around. We remembered my uncle in a special way during our wedding ceremony mass the next day, and I took some time during the day to say a few prayers for him. On the ride back to VA on Sunday night I did have a little break down in the car thinking about how much I’m going to miss him.
Post # 13
@junesun62: You are a strong, resilient woman for keeping it together the day of your wedding. I am very sorry for your uncle’s passing.