A Good Waiting Day

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
6951 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@peachykeener:  If you want to marry him and you want to have kids before you’re 30, why can’t you talk to him about that? 

One thing I’ve found about some men… they don’t really think about the length of time it takes to get where you want to be in life. Like, my FI might say “I want to be married and have a couple of kids in five years”. Um. OK. But if you’re not even engaged yet you best get engaged quick. You have to count backwards for them. In five years= married with two kids. Which means in about 4 years= married with one kid and pregnant. Do you want any space between them at all?? 2 year= married, no kids yet. Do you want to be married for any length of time before starting a family? Cause if so… you’re already late on wedding planning right now. 

There is something to be said about not pestering someone about when the engagement is going to take place if you’re both on the same page already. It gives him space to surprise you. But if you’re not on the same page and you’re surprised to hear when he imagines getting married, I think you have to actually TALK to him about your life goals. 

Post # 5
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@MexiPino:  +1. Men have literally no clue about how long things take. It’s ridiculous. 

@peachykeener:  My friends SO proposed at 20 years old and then told everyone their wedding would be in 10 years when they’re 30. They’re now 22 and getting married next year. (Apparently he realised 10 years is actually a pretty long time. Who knew?) 

So much can change in that time frame and this is a good sign! Hes thinking about it on his own and talking to you about it with no pushing which is excellent. I know waiting can be hard sometimes (I’m still waiting too :/ lol) but it’s very promising that it’s on his mind!

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