Post # 1
There is no progress what so ever in my ongoing wait, but I wondered if anyone made any progress this weekend? We had a good weekend but once again…….NOTHING…
Maybe it’s time to just accept that things may not change and we will just date for years.
Does anyone have any happy waiting stories?
Post # 3
not really. My SO and I just talked about what we’d like for a wedding. I kind of failed this weekend :/ I mentioned something about rings and my SO just smiled and said you’re anxious to get engaged aren’t you? and I said no I’m not I can wait. And my SO said, don’t worry we’ll get engaged soon.
So that doesnt really count as progress. lol! Do you have a timeline?
Post # 4
well i know it is going to happen soon enough so its happy waiting. we have been talking more of what we want at our wedding and we also started talking about houses etc.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Aww sweetly I’m sure it’ll get better soon, maybe take up a project? (I’ve been wondering about forcing myself to do some sewing when I’ve been on the bee for too long XD)
last weekend was okay, worked Saturday so that was sort of lame, but I saw my family on Sunday and had a lovely time 🙂 BF has exams in less than a week so he’s been studying really hard.
Its fairly apparent that we won’t be getting engaged any time soon, when he told me he had a plan I figured he’d at least have thought about when and a budget but this morning I asked how much he thought he might spend on an engagement ring (related to a thread I was reading on this site) and he had no idea at all, then pulled a number out of the air. So plan probably actually means “one day we could get married” >.>
birthday this Thursday and visiting my parents for the weekend so I’m excited about that! 🙂
Post # 6
It was a good weekend. We had some future/wedding talks and I had a budget talk with my parents.
Post # 7
I know the proposal is coming this summer, and it helps that I will have a million things going on as well to not only keep my mind off of it, but be scarce so that my SO can actually sit down and order the ring! <3 I am already planning on spending Saturdays in June in the office studying and catching up on work.
@beeeforeigocrazy: If marriage in the near future is important to you, you need to make it known. You can’t just “accept dating” if marriage is a non-negotiable for you. I know you are probably speaking out of haste, but I just want to see the Bees here get what they want. 🙂
Post # 8
@MrsNewDay: Really the only encouraging thing is thst he knows I won’t move in with him until we are engaged. I have made that very clear, but he does keep talking about how it won’t be much longer until I move. I did get frustrated with him saying so much about that and being able to look forward to it , when he feels pressured if I say anything about getting engaged. I asked him to stop talking about it so much since he us the one holding it up. I know that sounds harsh but it’s true.
Post # 9
For some reason we talked about first dances this weekend. I don’t remember how it came up, but he said something about taking lessons and I said that was fine but I didn’t want to do a choreographed dance. Eventually I asked if he wanted to go ahead and start taking classes and he said “well not right now”, so I guess that means we’re not that close to engagement 🙂
This coming weekend is my BFF’s wedding. I knew we were definitely not getting engaged before her wedding because I actually said I didn’t want to be distracted from helping her plan. Of course, she’s just having a small ceremony and her reception isn’t till October… so maybe it won’t happen until after that. In any case, I’m on semi-raised alert after this weekend but not on high alert until after the reception 🙂
Post # 10
Oh, he also hinted at good things happening later this year, so I think it’s reasonable to hope for a 2013 proposal
Post # 11
Well, my BF left himself logged into his e-mail account and when I went to access my account, I saw 4 messages in a row from the jeweller who’s designing my e-ring with the subject “Ring Update”. I didn’t read them of course and logged out immediately. Then today while I was out (he knew I was going to be out), he sent me a text saying he had come home “to change” (he’s a landscaper), which he’s never done before. My spidey sense says he brought the ring home!
Post # 13
Sort-of. My SO discussed going ring shopping whenever I want to. We agreed on two “restrictions-” we will not plan a wedding while I am student teaching, and we will wait to get married until my braces come off just before graduation February 2015. Other than that, it is completely in his court. This doesn’t give me a definate timeline, but it does let me know that he is serious about wanting to marry me. It may mean that a wedding is still at least 2-3 years off, but it still gives me hope. I originally did not want a long engagement, but that may be what is best for us.
Post # 14
@nerdybee: @nerdybee: yeah, I originally had a timeline based off what everyone else in my circle had done, but I’ve had to revise it to what it truly best for us. It’s tough when your expectations don’t pan out, but in time I’ve seen that this is better.
Post # 15
@beeeforeigocrazy: I like your example about him being able to talk and look forward about moving in together while you can’t talk about engagement and look forward to it! Well thought! 🙂 You’re right, he is the one holding you guys up, so why should he get to talk about it? It was not harsh at all… What is harsh is waiting for six months while he has the ring and not be able to talk about it on top of that.
Post # 16
I definitely do not have a happy waiting story. I realized this past week that I’ve been so fixated on trying to get this guy to marry me after years that I have lost sight of whether or not I am even happy being with him. It turns out that I’m kind of not. Not great news for the relationship, but it feels amazing to stand up for myself and concentrate on loving myself for a change, rather than trying to convince someone I am good enough to marry. Wishing you girls out there good waiting weeks.