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A groom going to the bridal shower?

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    MaggieGirl    October 16, 2010  

    Is anyone planning on having their fiance attend part of the shower (or ever been to a shower where this has happened)?  I went to a shower one time where the groom helped the bride open gifts, but I'm not sure if I will consider having my fiance join me for part of my shower or not... I can see some of the more traditional women being weirded out by it, but at the same time I would LOVE to have his help because the whole "opening presents" thing can drag on and on sometimes.  Anyone out there considering making him come help open gifts?

     
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    bestbuddies    June 6, 2010   Chicago, Illinois

    my husband poped in but did not stay...

     
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    huckleberry783    June 18, 2011  

    My friend had her groom come to her shower, and it was a ton of fun!

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    i havnt been to a shower where the groom was present.. i think it would be more weird for the grooms than anything else..

     
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    ta27    October 30, 2010  

    Honestly I think its fine for the groom to be there.  Most of the stuff you receive is for the both of you so why not?  My FI is definitely going to be there but opening the presents is all on me.

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    If we have one, he's SO gonna be there... of course, we'll also be inviting the guys to come too, since a lot of our male friends aren't married or involved with anyone and we'd want them to come to our party to join in on the celebration... plus they'd never forgive me if I DIDN'T invite them!!! LOL!

     
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    MaggieGirl    October 16, 2010  

    I'm not worried my fiance would feel weird about going if I decide I do want him to be there.  If I promise him cake he'll pretty much agree to do anything (he's like a little boy around sweets).  I'm just not sure if people will think it's strange.  I guess I really don't care either way though because it will mean the gifts will be opened much quicker.  There's nothing I hate more than sitting at a shower for hours as the bride slowly opens gifts and looks each one over, inspecting it and talking about it.  I've been to a shower that lasted for 4+ hours before and I was pulling my hair out.

     
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    Treasure43    September 18, 2010  

    My FI dropped me off at mine and picked me up (my friends were borrowng my car). It was fun because earlier I had to play a game to see how well I knew him, so when he showed up we had him play the game :)

     
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    Vegas Pug    November 27, 2010   Suburban Chicago

    It's commonplace and pretty expected that the groom is present at wedding showers in my neck of the woods.  It's a given that my fiance will be at our shower. next month.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    we had our shower at a country club for brunch, and my dad didn't want to miss out on the brunch so he had the guys go in a seperate room. they kept coming in to see what was going on with us. if i did it again, i'd just keep them in the same room b/c they obviously wanted to be there.

    my hubby didn't help open presents though. he offered, but his 4 year old niece was doing an awesome job helping me.

     
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    mishelleez    November 5, 2010   DW- Bahamas

    My FH went golfing he wanted nothing to do with a shower but he had a ball when he got home and saw all the presents!

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    I made J come to ours. I hate stuff like that, so he came to help direct some of the attention off me. Plus it was 75% his relatives whom I'd never met before! Both of our dads also came, and the three of them joked that they would sneak downstairs to play pool, but they ended up really enjoying the games. :) No TP bride or stuff though, the hostesses planned more gender neutral stuff on purpose.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    yeah my fiance will definitely be at the shower to open presents and eat with us... he might come a little late or something like that though.

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    I've never been to a shower where the groom is there. Sometimes he shows up at the end to help pack up the presents to bring them home, but that's not a general rule. I don't think I would have wanted FI at my showers, I liked just being with my girls and talking wedding stuff without worrying about him being bored or sick of all the girly stuff. Plus I don't really think he'd want to spend all the time oooh-in and ahhhhh-ing over everything like girls do.

    Oh wait, I lied. I was at one shower a couple months ago where the groom and his groomsmen worked the bar and served us lunch. But it was a 150 person bridal shower with a formal sit down lunch. I've never been to a shower like that before. Start to finish it was completely different from every shower I've ever been to!!!

     
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    MsBlueberryBee    January 2015  

    FI and I had a jack & jill shower, so he was there for the whole thing and def. helped open all the presents!

     
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    MissDonnaAnne    August 26, 2012   Hamilton, NJ

    I have been to many showers where the groom was present the whole time. For my shower with my FI family, he will be present the whole time, and I am really glad. I would be really uncomfortable otherwise, as other then his mother and his one aunt, I hardly know the rest of the guests coming. 

     
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    Misstnt    October 9, 2010   WI

    For my FSIL's shower, her groom (FI's brother) showed up at the end, it was mostly his family, and I thought it was nice that he came.  So I think I'll have FI do the same.

     
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    jaylovessteez    September 19, 2010   CA

    my FI was drinking in the front with my dad.. they kind of kept to themselves. My mom warned  them not to mess with my party hahahaa she was getting vicious!

    But my FI did come in to take some pictures with me and my bridesmaids

     
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    bunnylovesbear    February 19, 2011   north of Boston, MA

    It's common for the groom to attend the bridal shower from where I am from.  I've actually never even been to a shower where the groom WASNT there!

     

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