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A groom-to-be and a fumbled engagement.

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    MisterKylaBee    August 25, 2011  

    Hello!  This is a groom-to-be here.  My bride-to-be shows me all the fun stuff everyone's up to, and this website is a lot of help.

    I'm just writing because I didn't give my fiance the best proposal.  It was a little lack lustre and it didn't have the care and thought that she deserves and it didn't convey the unfailing love that I have for her.  Also, I didn't get her the ring she deserved.  We are on a tight budget (gonna pull off a $1000-2000 wedding!) and I became fixated on being practical about the money and lost sight of what it represents.  She didn't even ask for much . . . multitudes less than she deserves.

    We had ourselves a very rocky start, years ago now in which I racked up a long list of check marks against me, but she kept on believing in me even though I let her down, and she loved me through it all.  Now here we are getting married, a new start and a new list of adventures, and I didn't give her a proposal to represent that. 

    She is so special to me, and I feel thankful, blessed and full of love everytime I wake up in the morning and see her right there beside me.  She is my best friend, and gives me so much love and I feel butterflies whenever I think of her.  I guess, I feel terrible because I didn't make her feel special (it really was kind of a fumbled proposal) and I want her to know and feel like she's the queen of this world because that's how I see her.

    Anyways, we talked things through, and she's still wearing my ring which makes me so happy when I see it on her finger.  I guess I'm just writing this because . . . well it seems like a good place to let it out, and my bride-to-be has found all you ladies very helpful with wedding planning and wedding stresses.

    I also am going to vow right here and now that she will know how special she is to me (she will read this).  I do try to show her every day that I care with the little things, but this was a big thing that really counted and I didn't step up.  In hopes of making up for my pretty lame-ass proposal she will recieve additional romance on top of the usual romance every month worthy of a special girl who just got engaged.    

    (I'm also glad I signed on here in case I need advice on wedding stuff)

     
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    MaiFuture    October 1, 2011   Texas

    Welcome! I think a lot of guys have gone through what you do. My FI didn't end up giving me the proposal he intended and the ring wasn't as flawless as he had hoped, but it doesn't matter to me because its what it represents. The love you show for eachother is what matters in the end =). 

     
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    mg1363    March 10, 2012   San Antonio TX

    Welcome to the bee!

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    I think it is so sweet that you are trying to show her how much you care. It sounds like she is one lucky girl.

     
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    SandyThePoet    May 5, 2012   Silvis, IL

    I hope she reads this. If I were her, I would be very moved by what you said! Valentines Day is Monday, and I hope that you show her how much she means to you and romance her til her toes curl! Obviously you are a guy with a heart and I think she is a lucky lady to have you.

     
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    H216scrf    November 11, 2011  

    Yay!  I like this post.  :) 

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    Welcome to Weddingbee! She is one lucky girl!

     
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    like

     
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    helenberrycrunch    January 1, 1992  

    Looks like it'll be a fantastic Valentine's day for one lady on here...

     
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    Miss JoelsBee    August 18, 2011  

    AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW that's MY Mr. Bee!!! I love you so much darlin'!

     

     
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    Jenniferk6    October 1, 2011   Ottawa, Ontario

    This is so sweet. Remember that it's the thought and the effort that counts, not how much you spend. If you try to make her feel special, she will. My FI fumbled the proposal too but it was so sweet and so very him that I wouldn't have it any other way.

    Romantic gestures don't have to cost a lot or any money. Getting some $5 flowers from the grocery store is just as good as getting $40 flowers from the florists. It's the act of bringing home flowers to let her know that you're thinking of her. Writing lists of favourite memories or what you like best about her is free and really touching.

    Welcome to the bee!

     
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    TerraWellness    August 27, 2011   Jersey Shore - Vermont Wedding

    She loves you and she's wearing your ring! 

    My proposal was a little lack luster. There was no profession of love or some elaborate proposal.  There was just a nervous "will you be my wife." and really, it doesnt matter, because he asked and I said yes. 

     

    Don't worry, she said yes and she loves you! Just continue to be the best fiance and husband that you can be <3 

    Congratulations and welcome :) 

     
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    WWLCC    October 28, 2012  

    Well, first off, congrats on the engagement.  I went through several different proposal ideas, but ultimately "settled" on one.  But, going into it, I was actually reassured by some jewelry store website video.  The proprietor of the store has a clip that noted many women won't care about the size or the proposal... it's the act of doing it and the moment in time that makes it special.  

    And, if you're still thinking on it, a spontaneous act of romance (somewhere down the road) never hurt.  Either way, best of luck with the planning!

     
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    Miss JoelsBee    August 18, 2011  

    I just printed this off and I'm keeping it in my wallet so I can look at it whenever I want to!

    I love my groom-to-be so much and this means so much to me!

    :D

     
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    ellabee    July 3, 2011   Virginia

    Welcome!

    And many many proposals are "fumbled"   Honestly, my man never proposed, he got me a ring and just handed it to me. We had already talked about getting married, so it wasn't really even necessary.

    Us women, we know how to fantasize a good story, and we know that our men love us, no matter how awkward they really are. :) (So are we! That's our  big secret--oops!)

     
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    jayce    December 10, 2010  

    This is adorable! Welcome to WB!

     
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    Ms. Noodles    November 23, 2011   Playa Del Carmen, Mexico

    This is so cute! Honestly, my fiance's proposal wasn't exactly a "swept me off my feet" kinda moment, but I still love the guy. And don't feel too bad about the ring, we actually exchanged ours to cause the first one really wasn't me and the one I have now is more my style and it was even more special cause we picked it out together =)

     
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    KatNewby    July 15, 2014   Michigan (For Now)

    I think it is really nice that you made a WeddingBee to show your fiance how much you feel bad about your lack luster proposal. But I'm honestly really curious why you didn't "step up" the first time? I think it's great that you realize that now, and I know we all make mistakes, but from a standpoint of interest, why didn't you give her something a little more thoughful the first time around if she has always meant so much to you?

     
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    Hnne    December 10, 2011  

    Wow!  I'm crying.  If my fiance could only read this and do something like this... I think you are a real man with a real woman for a fiance.  You both are so unselfish and living for one anoher.  I wish for you many blessings and happyness.

     
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    HappilyEverAfter54    June 23, 2012   Central Pennsylvania

    this is too freaking cute!

     
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    How sweet!!

     

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