(Closed) A Grooms men nightmare!!!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s never too late to ask them to step down! Honestly if they are being that hostile toward you and the marriage, they should NOT stand.

Post # 4
1003 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would ask them to step down too. Not only are they going to be in your wedding pictures forever (unless you have photoshop) but they are also against your wedding. AND completely and utterly disrepectful to your Fiance.

Are these the people you want standing up for your marriage?

Post # 5
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

De-groomsmen them!  Honestly, if that’s how they acted at what was supposed to be a low key weekend, there’s no guarantee they won’t get tanked and make fools of themselves at your wedding!  The last thing you need to be thinking about as you get married is what jerks they were to your Fiance and wondering if they’re going to make a scene.  Tell them to step down, un-invite them to the wedding, and tell your venue / large male relatives and friends that they are _not_ welcome at your event.  What a sad way to find out his “friends” true colors :/

Post # 6
27 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

why would you want people like that to have any part in your wedding, honestly like the day is about you and your partner and you done really have to conform to groomsmen flowergirl etc you could have none, i would not have them in my pictures never mind at my wedding…

Post # 7
235 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the above posters that it’s never too late to get rid of them in the wedding.  Do you really want anyone that is not supportive of your marriage to stand at the alter with you? And what makes you think they won’t act the same way at your reception after a few drinks?  You could have a very embarassing situation on your hands. It  doesn’t matter if your bridal party is uneven in numbers.  Only have people who love and respect you!

Post # 8
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh no!!! That is so horrible and disrespectful, Im so sorry that this is happening to you so close to your wedding!! Like you need the extra stress. I would have my Fiance ask them to step down, I think the people standing up at your wedding should be the people who love and respect yall AND your relationship.

My Fiance has one close friend who has never liked me since the very beginning, He is always openly rude to me and tells me mean things. My Fiance and him are still friends, but he specifically didnt ask him to be a groomsman because he doesnt respect our relationship. I hope things work out, keep us posted!

Post # 9
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah… it might seem unthinkable to you to switch out the groomsmen at this time, but get rid of them. As you said, they’re going to be in your wedding pictures FOREVER. An uneven wedding party would be better than having those jerks as a part of your special day, or you and your Fiance could ask cousins or uncles to fill their places.

Post # 10
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Definitely ditch them. Like NOW.

Post # 11
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

kick them out!!! its not worth the aggravation, stress, and having people in your photos you are not even friends with!!

We kicked out a bridesmaid and a groomsman (they’re a married couple) and we’re not regretting it ONE bit. The drama and drunken antics that would’ve ensued with them there would’ve been a disaster.

Post # 12
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh man. i don’t have any advice, just wanted to say i am sorry to hear about this! what a mess, and your poor man! he must feel awful.

good luck.

Post # 13
793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree, kick them out, it’s not worth it, and do you really want to look at your wedding pictures and see them and be like “Ahh I hate you!”?

Post # 14
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I definetly ask them not to show up at the wedding.  You could either get 2 guys that your both ok with and rent them tuxes/suits or  just double up your brides maids have them walk down the aisle together.  But i would not have people that may potentially get pissy drunk or hate that fact that my fiance is marrying me.

Post # 15
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yet another reason NOT to have a wedding party…between idiot groomsmen posts and crazy passive aggressive bridesmaids – I’ll pass on the drama!

That said – I’d kick them out unless the apologize – that’s so incredibly rude of them to be mean to your Fiance – but good for him for getting out of there since it was making him uncomfortable – seems like you’ve got a good guy that doesn’t put up with a lot of crap.

The topic ‘A Grooms men nightmare!!!!!!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors