Post # 1
I’ve heard of a ‘Honey do shower,’ but is that for the bride and groom or just for the groom?
I’d really like my FH to have a shower so he can get tools and other manly things he’ll want. We’re probably going to be buying/building a house either right before we get married or right after, so he’ll need lots of tools and stuff.
Anyone’s groom having a shower? Who is the one that should plan it (me?)? Is it common to have one of these showers for the groom? Are just men invited (I would think so)?
Post # 4
I’ve never heard of this, but I think it would be a good idea. I never got why only girls got to have showers when you’re both getting married.
Post # 5
Not saying it isn’t a good idea, just I’ve never heard of it. So I don’t know if his guy friends would understand?
I have seen brides get tools, grills, house stuff etc at the regular shower if they register for them.
Post # 6
I don’t think anyone should have a shower to ‘get lots of stuff’. It may be a nice side effect, but the goal should be companionship and fun not material goods.
It is not your guests jobs to set you up with the tools you will need for house building/maintenance.
If you decide to forge ahead I think you need to follow similar etiquette to bridal showers which is it needs to be held by someone who a) volunteers (not is voluntold) and b) is not an immediate family member of either bride/groom.
Post # 7
@andielovesj: Oh shoot! That’s not what I meant by what I posted. I just didn’t know if it was common to register for things for the groom for the bridal shower. We both already live on our own, but I know he would like to have some tools (a drill, hammer, etc.). I didn’t know if it was common to have a man shower or not. And we’re not building a house ourselves (we just pick out the plan we want and someone builds it for us). I should have worded the post better. 🙂
Thanks for the replies! We’ll probably just register for a few tools and grill accessories for the bridal shower.
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Post # 9
I think that a man shower would be mocked and made fun of for a long long time. I know in my circle the responses would be no well recieved at all.
The registry is the way to go!
Post # 10
@heather5743: I think that is a good idea.
Post # 11
I can’t say that I’ve ever heard of it, but then until a few months ago I’d never heard of a Groom’s Cake either and I think that that’s one of the sillier ideas I’ve heard in a while. I’m a big fan of not having “bridal” things that need to have “groom” equivalents, but instead just have “wedding” thing. This applies to the cake, showers, parties and all kinds of things. The wedding is to celebrate both of you coming together, so it all the things leading up to it should also be for both of you.
Exception: Batchelor/Batchelorette Parties.