Post # 1
Our ceremony and reception site are both pretty small and our guest list fairly large. Bare with me here……A friend of my fiance’s friend’s wife basically told us she is having her best friend visit her from Tennessee that weekend and will be bringing her along as a third guest. Our wedding is in a remote location and it feels as if this woman (the wife) deliberately invited this friend of hers to come along and entertain her at the wedding because her husband (the true connection to us) is a quiet, sweet, and reserved man whose company she doesn’t seem to enjoy or appreciate. The real kicker is that this friend is someone the husband doesn’t even care for.
What should I do?????? Can I tell her we will let her know if we can accommodate her friend as it gets closer and our expected numbers get squared away?
Post # 3
If you truly can’t accomodate another person because the venue is too small and/or money is an issue politely tell her no. If you just don’t care for her, suck it up and say yes. Though you don’t care for her, evidently her husband does. I wouldn’t leave her hanging with a maybe. If the friend from Tennessee can’t attend the wedding the wife will likely want to make other plans for the two of them during her friend’s visit.
Post # 4
I find this insanly rude, “oh i’m having company that weekend, so i’m going to bring them??” no thats not who I invited. I would say I’m so sorry be we can not accommodate another person, and if you can not come because of this we will miss you” I can’t believe people would acctually do this!!!
Post # 5
Hell no. You can’t just invite along a friend and expect you to host them. If her friend is visiting she will have to choose, your wedding or visiting time.
Post # 6
Tell her no, the friend cannot come because of time/money issues. If the friend can’t come, the wife will probably decide not to come also.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t leave her hanging because you might not know until it’s too late to make other arrangements. I would just tell her no. I would tell her that your guest list is final, there is no room to accommodate more people, and you can also say that you are not allowing anyone else to bring an extra guest and you feel that it would be rude to the other guests.
Honestly, the nerve of some people…. Don’t these people remember getting married??
Post # 8
Wow, I can’t beleive how rude people are! I would never even think of bringing an univited guest (whom the couple don’t even know) let alone tell the bride I am going to!
If I were you I would just tell her no. Your venue will only allow for a certain amount of people and you would rather have people that you actually want (and know!!!) at your wedding. You might also want to add that you have a B list too, just in case she finds out someone else can make the wedding and thinks her friend will be a good replacement!
Post # 9
NO! Do not let her get away with this… it is so incredibly rude. She can choose not to come if she wants to but she can not just add a guest to your wedding!
Post # 10
It amazes me how rude some can be! You need to flat out tell this woman no, she cannot bring her friend. Your wedding isn’t a backyard BBQ where it wouldn’t matter so much if an extra person came. This is a huge life event and just because this woman has a friend coming to visit, doesn’t mean she can just assume she can bring the friend.