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Eek! That's a tough one! Just wondering, what would your mom say?
Maybe put a +1 and make him choose-and if he doesn't like it, (can't bring 2) maybe he will choose to not attend?
Just put his name on the STD, don't put a guest on there or +1... when you send the actual invite if he has a girlfriend include her name, but if you don't want him bringing a random girl or his "wing man" then only put his name on that as well, and explain to him only people in relationships are getting plus ones. There isn't anything wrong with that
I agree with mcnetn3 on this one. I'm not doing +1s unless it's a serious long term relationship.
I think the "not adding plus 1" was the answer I was looking for. Let's just hope he doesn't come.
well, are you doing plus ones for everyone else but this guy? i agree that is the simplest solution, but might not make sense if everyone else gets one...
I just looked over our guest list and there are VERY few unmarried people so I don't think it would be obvious that I didn't send him a plus 1. The only other unmarried people on that side of the family most likely won't show so I have that going for me.
Well there shouldn't be any responses to STD's, only invitations. And you don't have to put a plus one for STD's because they are really only meant for people who you absolutely don't want to miss your wedding.
Good point. Will address STD only to him. So for those with kids, do I need to put Jim and Jane Smith and children or just Jim and Jane Smith.
I want to be careful with this one because I am inviting someone who has kids but also a mother in law living with them and she is not invited so I know we can't say "Smith Family"...
u don't have to invite all your cousins. I didn't invite all of mine. If you don't want him there don't invite him.
@Atalanta: I wish it was that simple. Trust me, if I felt like I could go away with it, I would totally do it.
I did not put any +1s on the save the dates. that was put off until official invitations, in case people split up, divorced, got together, blah blah.
Okay, I'm bored this afternoon. Can I go ahead and handwrite them. They're simple postcards? Black ink?
We had that situation, only with a female family member.
We got my husband's blessing (his family member) to not invite this person. He totally understood and agreed.
My daughter did not want to look out there on the single most important occasion in her life to date and see one single person who stirred bad feelings or who was not happy for her....so we simply did not invite this person.
The rest of the family was upset, somewhat, but given this person's situation---they "got it".
She is a social idiot and would have dressed very inappropriately or would have done something to draw negative attention to herself and taken the focus off of the two it belongs on---the bride and groom. We were delighted she was not there. LOL
To be honest, I have a similar situation and decided not to send her a save the date at all. She has no idea when the wedding is, and when I send her an invite (because my mom said I have to) I will be sending it along with her parents. I am kind of hoping she won't get it and won't come, and maybe that's rude, but at least I am inviting her, right? I get family points for that one, right? Plus, she may not be able to come because there won't be enough time because she didn't get a save the date...
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I have a cousin who I do not like, do not get along with, overall can't stand and had to remove from my friends on FB. Yes, it really was that bad.
He's older than me and single. Over the years, he has occasionaly brought a woman (always different) to weddings and has this male friend who is his little wing man. Always around. I wish he would just claim his as his partner because it sure would make a lot more sense that way.
Anyway, we are about to start addressing our STDs to send August 1. Should I just put his name on it? I really don't even want him to come so why bother inviting a "plus 1"? There is a chance he won't come, which I would love.
If I just put his name on it and he RSVPs with a plus 1 or even tries to bring his man friend, can I tell him no? I seriously don't like him but I'm trying to do enough right to not cause family drama or make my mom feel in the middle of it or anything.