Post # 1
The other day my SO and I were invited for a nice lunch with some friends at my friend’s parents’ house, very nice house and lovely people.
I suggested(asked) if he would wear his new shirt. I’ve never done that before but I thought it would make sense if he wore the shirt because it would look clean and nice. Afterall we were invited to a home and I simply wanted to see him wear it I knew it would look cute!
Anyway at the table I mentioned his new shirt and he said I picked out and wanted him to wear it. Then, a distant friend of mine(Male) was like, “What!? I would not like it if my girlfriend did that! No women should tell a guy what to wear! That’s like hurting men’s masculinity.”
Huh? What’s the big deal? My mother buys my father’s entire wardrobe and that is how it works in my family. My father’s style is BAD anyway and obviously this was what I’ve seen growing up. It’s not about masculinity for me. And, my SO doesn’t mind either or maybe just does things because he knows that would make me happy.
And I thought this guy is 38 years old and never been married, what does he know.
What do you think? Do you think “Outfit suggestion” to your husband/boyfriend is out of line?
Post # 3
Um, my FI asks my opinion on everything he wears. Especially when he is dressing up for a nice occassion. Don’t listen to that guy. He has insecurity issues.
Post # 4
My FI is color blind… he depends on my opinion so he doesn’t feel like he looks bad all day… =D he looked fine when I met him though and when I told him that he said he had his mom checked his clothes for him everyday tehe. Or his roommates or his ex wife… depending on where he lived at the time…
Post # 5
You suggested he wear the shirt. You did not forcibly put it on him and shove him out of the house so he didn’t have a chance to change. I’m pretty sure your guy’s masculinity is intact.
“And I thought this guy is 38 years old and never been married, what does he know.” With that kind of attitude, I can see why he’s never been married, lol.
Post # 6
@linguo42: I was thinking the same. That’s why he’s not married.
Post # 7
I suggest stuff all the time! SO is perfectly capable of dressing himself, and well, but there are certain shirts/ties that I love and I always go to them. Sort of like when a guy says “hey wear that short skirt I love.”
This guy is nuts. Tell him that by his logic he can never suggest anything to any woman ever! It would be insulting her intelligence.
Post # 8
My fiance’s favorite clothes are the ones i’ve bought for him. He tells me that he wants clothes every holiday because i’m good at picking them out.
Post # 9
I suggest things to my Fi all the time, otherwise he would never leave the house in anything but jeans
Post # 10
For us, we’re each other’s souding board. We always get the other’s opinion.
It makes me wonder if he’s had a woman help him pick clothes, and some other man said that to him and made HIM feel emasculated.
Post # 11
I am always shopping and suggesting stuff to my FH and he thanks me for it. His style was totally stuck in the 80s. He likes going out and dressing nicer and he always thanks me for picking what to wear. He has no clue what goes well together so he would only wear tshirts and 80s jeans before, now my baby is rockin some awesome stylish frocks.
Post # 12
haha, that’s funny. I can’t believe he’s that shocked by it. I buy FI all his clothes and if it were up to him, I’d pick out his outfit everyday. For work, he’ll just wear any of the dress shirts he has (that I bought). But when we go out, he’ll always ask my opinion.
Post # 13
hahaha good lord its not like you demanded him to wear an easter bunny suit! It’s a freakin’ shirt, bachelor for life! 😛
Post # 14
When we met, DH essentially had a uniform he wore every day: a black t-shirt, and a pair of brown cargo pants. And sometimes he’d mix it up with a crude t-shirt. He’d buy several pairs of the exact same color pair of cargo pants at a time. In the winter, it would be a black or dark grey fleece over the black t-shirt, with brown cargo pants. It was ridiculous. Now, every chance I get I try to put more color into his wardrobe, but if left to his own devices, he’s still be wearing his uniform. He doesn’t think twice about putting something else on, but I have to ask him to do it, so I do. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it at all.
Post # 15
Whaat? ‘Hurting his masculinity’? All the ‘masculine’ men I know – my man included – are pretty much clueless about clothes. If we are going out, he *never* makes a selection without seeking my approval first.
If my man started getting all choosy and fussy about clothes I’d think he’d been swapped by aliens lol…
Post # 16
I only offer my opinion when he asks for it. I do pick out and buy some of his clothes for him, but my husband is pretty picky. He’s big on being comfortable…so if a pair of pants or a shirt isn’t comfortable for him, then he’s not going to want to wear it.
I don’t see how it’s hurting his masculinity though…that’s a weird thing to say! My husband almost always comes out of the closet and is like, “Does this look ok?”