A Job Offer Taken Back :( Devastated!

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 4
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh you poor thing. I definitely see why this would be upsetting. The reality is this guy sounds really unprofessional and you’re probably way better off not working with him. I’m sure once you tell your family they will feel the same way! You’ll find something better soon, I’m sure of it 🙂

Post # 5
10877 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@LucyDiamond:  Oh my word. I am so sorry that this happend to you.  Is there an HR department at this business?  Was anything about this offer ever extended in writing? What this man and his company did to you is completely unprofessional.

Post # 6
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

That really sucks, I’m sorry you’re going through it 🙁 definitely don’t lose hope as it seems he still wants you on board BUT also continue to look for other job opportunities. Trust everything happens for a reason and if you don’t end up working there, there was definitely a reason why it didn’t work out. 

Post # 7
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LucyDiamond:  *hugs* this is a terrible thing to happen. I hope that either your job works out in the end, or an even better opportunity comes your way! 

Post # 8
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LucyDiamond:  hold on to that glimmer of hope that an office becomes available. In the mean time continue applying for you dream job elsewhere so when you break this news it would ease the pity.

Post # 9
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@LucyDiamond:  It sucks now. Really, it does. It feels like the end of the world. But you have to go out there and keep trying. Then WHEN you do get the gig of your dreams (a nice professional one at that), this will not even be a blip on your radar. Consider this a bullet dodged – the director sounded super shady. Do you really want to place your livelihood on someone who can’t even establish a start date and workspace for you? I wouldn’t think so.

Chin up, and get back out there. Your wings aren’t clipped – they are just skewed at the moment.

Post # 10
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry this hppened to you.

Frankly, I would not take the offer if it comes your way again. No responsible business owner hires for  a position before they ensure there is capacity to add that person to the staff- an office for instance? They also don’t back pedal on the terms of the offer- wages, hours, start date etc.

Post # 11
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@LucyDiamond:  continue following up with him – don’t let this fall through the cracks! 

i’d write him an email so it’s timestamped and on ‘paper’ saying something that involves mentioning he offered you the job, and that you’re looking for an estimate of when the job offered will be starting, that you’re so excited about the opporutnity etc.

be super respectful, but check in consistently, offer to do freelance for him in the meantime, offer to train ahead of time etc. make sure he knows you’re serious and that you’re not just going to go ‘oh okay’ and then drop off the face of the planet. 

be so on the ball and awesome that he will be working his tail off to get you in and working for him. 🙂

good luck i hope it all works out!

Post # 12
1470 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh I’m so sorry OP, I know how tough the market is. Eff this guy for playin’ with your life like this! Hope you find something else soon. Confide in your parents and your FI, they’ll understand and help you through it and maybe he can tell his parents and make it less embarrassing.

Post # 13
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

oh, and include the wage he told you in the email. 

i once got spontaneously offered a promotion and in the whirlwind of the meeting, my boss said they wouldn’t pay me more right away but would revisit a raise in three months. after thinking it over on the way home i wrote her a really respectful note thanking her for the new position and telling her that i’d like to know what the raise would be so i knew what i was working toward and my commit to my new position. 

she wrote back the next morning to tell me that they’d decided to give me the raise effective immediately 🙂 

don’t underestimate advocating for yourself – just be super respectful

Post # 15
4760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh I’m sorry that sucks and I feel for you.

It may be unprofessional, but def not uncommon and I think most companies do this all the time.  My DH was telling me yesturday how companies will have multiple interviews with you and even fly you out if you are not local and then not hire you.  Who knows why. 

My last employer did this too.  They would interview people and drag them through the whole process and then decide to hire people in Romania instead cause it is cheaper.  They just let the candidates think that they weren’t good enough and that someone else got the job when that’s not true.

Post # 16
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@LucyDiamond:  That happened to me too! I went for a long interview, they gave me a long interview and a second interview and said they’d call me when I can start only to dodge my calls and email me a month later saying I didn’t get it after all. The woman had the audacity to tell me she’d keep my CV on file. I told her to rather delete it. I could never work for such a flake.

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