Post # 1
We are looking at having a small summer 2014 wedding (75 people).
SO really likes the idea of having it on Saturday, July 5 since everyone will have July 4 off anyway and can travel. He also likes the idea of incorporating July 4 festivities into the rehearsal/dinner the night before.
I, on the other hand, don’t want to ruin everyone’s holiday with the nusciance of traveling. I’m also afraid it being a holiday weekend will affect attendance.
Other than those factors, this date would work best as it near the date of when both of our rental leases are up as well as a slower time at both of our jobs. The rest of July is incredibly busy for SO’s side of the family. We are trying to stay away from June as it’s when our birthdays, and many other family members’ birthdays & anniversaries are. Not to mention, our venue price would go up in June by a good amount.
So what are your thoughts on a small July 5 brunch wedding? Good or bad?
Post # 3
@regit45: My ILs threw a HUGE party on the 6th of July to celebrate our wedding/our baby on the way/SIL’s baby.
They had everyone show up, four couples traveling from Chicago to Upstate NY!
I think as long as you give really good notice, it’s fine!
Post # 4
It depends. You know your crowd best.
I, personally, wouldn’t want to have to be at a rehearsal dinner on July 4th. I’d rather be with my family at the lake, like we usually are. Would I suck it up for a friend? Yes, absolutely, but it still isn’t ideal.
I don’t think July 5 is a bad day for a wedding, I just think that having to have the RD on a holiday is meh. I’m not a big fan of holiday weddings in general, though.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@regit45: I personally don’t travel on holiday weekends because it’s stressful and expensive, therefore it’s unlikely that I would attend unless you were immediate family or a really close friend.
Post # 6
My cousins got married on July 5th, and it was fabulous! We spent the night (big holiday 4th!) before celebrating with family and friends who had come into town, and it was like the whole block was celebrating their marriage. Realistically, it’s only one holiday that OoT guests will spend focused on your wedding instead of going camping or whatnot. We usually go camping over that, but you know what? There’s always next year. 😉
Do what works for you guys, and don’t worry too much about the rest. And just think– erfect timing for a sparkler exit or a fireworks sendoff!
Post # 7
@beachbride1216: We’re pretty much only inviting close friends & family anyway!
Post # 8
@Sugar_and_Spice: This is true, it’s only ONE holiday out of a million. I just don’t want to inconvenience anyone, but I do think we can make it fun for those in town.
@BrandNewBride: My friend had her wedding on the 6th of July and it was a good turnout, though most probably traveled on the 5th and not on the actual holiday.
Post # 9
@regit45: The 4th is usually a close family holiday anyhow – you are just throwing a bigger party! I agree with people that if it was an aquaintance I would probaly choose my own closer family/friends and our holiday plans, but if i were close to you and/or your family, I would love a July 5th wedding and would def attend!
Post # 10
@HappinessIsInDaisies: Thanks for the input. It would be nice to be with close friends and family on a holiday I normally don’t see most of them!
Post # 11
I think that as long as you give plenty of notice, people will want to come and celebrate with you! While I’m not American and dont know how much of a close family holiday it is (akin to Christmas? or St. Patrick’s Day?) but I feel like it would be a great way to celebrate the holiday with people who are no doubt family and friends.
If you’re a bit younger, like early 20’s, I could maybe see people being hesitat to attend something formal when they’d rather be out drinking or partying, but if they love you and want to celebrate with you, they’ll be there.
I agree with @beachbride1216 in that if lots of people are from out of town, people may dread the travel. However, I’m sure the destination is worth the journey!
Post # 12
@regit45: I’m having a July 4th wedding. We don’t celebrate it or anything really. And if we do, it’s just with family who would all be invited anyway.
Post # 13
@regit45: I’m not sure that’d I’d want to go because FI’s family already has July 4 traditions. Personally, I’m not a big fan of taking advantage of extended holidays because people can travel – it’s not very fair to expect them to spend their 4th traveling to your wedding, especially if they’re coming from out of state. Not to mention rehearsal dinner and the fact that the 4th isn’t just a family holiday it’s a holiday where people like to drink and hang out by the pool/lake so some guests may not be feeling their best, with the wedding being so early in the day. If you’re not having a very large wedding just ask everyone their honest opinions and see what they say. Maybe your family isn’t that big on the 4th, they all live within 30 minutes, no one likes to drink which would mean all of my reasons for not having it would not be applicable.
Post # 14
Definitely depends on your crowd. If I had family traditions amd a friend invited me to a wedding, I’d choose family. I know one family that has “Christmas” during the fourth weekend. December is so hectic and everyone feels pulled between in laws, plus summer get togethers are so much easier to plan weather wise, so the whole family gets together in July. For them, it would be akin to having a wedding on Christmas eve. As long as you’re ok with declines and all your VIPs have said it’s good, go for it.
Post # 15
with a 75 person guest list, i’m assuming that is family and close friends. so if that is the date you want, then that is perfect for you.
maybe you can arrange the RD near a place where everyone can watch fireworks.
Post # 16
Sounds like fun, sounds like you have the right idea of a big fun family celebration. The only thing that I think may be an issue on a family holiday weekend would be if it was a no kids wedding as many familys would want to be together at that time.