Post # 1
quick question for all of you who are living apart from your partner.
If you have a key to your SO’s house/Apt, do you let yourself in?
I have a key to FH’s house, but I never let myself inside of it. We don’t live together. We’re almost 90 days out from the wedding and to some people, it seems odd that I don’t just go over there because “it’s my house too.” I feel like he doesn’t want me to do that. I’m sort of uncomfortable there anyway.
I’ll give more details to why I’m asking later, but I just want to know what the Hive thinks
Post # 3
I live with my Fiance but I’d probably just let myself in, although with a warning I’m coming over. I always feel like boys do weird things when we’re not around that would be super awkward to just open the door and see.
Post # 4
I never did but only because he lived with roommates…now we live together, so yea, I have a key! 🙂
Post # 5
When Darling Husband, then Boyfriend or Best Friend, lived at his own place, (well with roomates), yes I let myself in with warning. I’d knock incase someone was there but if no one was I’d let myself in.
Post # 6
Well I can’t vote, but I do let myself into his place. He’s given me permission to, though, we talked about it and I know he’s okay with it. If he wasn’t, I would always call first.
Post # 7
My first boyfriend of 6 years…I never let myself in. I don’t even know why he gave me a key but I def wasn’t “allowed” in his apt if he wasn’t there. No way. He was a complete psycho though.
My current boyfriend, I had a key to his place during the first month and damn near lived there so I would let myself in and out all the time. I think it just depends on the relationship you have 🙂
Post # 8
I decided to add a poll–better late than never, right?
Post # 9
We have our own house now, but back when we lived separately, I used to let myself in. Only when he was home, though, and he pretty much always knew when I was coming over!
Post # 10
When I had the key to my then bf’s place, I used it. He had a roommate, who wasnt there for months at a time, but even when he was, I’d let myself in. He knew I pretty much lived there on the weekends.
Post # 11
Before Fiance and me moved in together, I practically lived at his house. I was over all the time, and him and his roommate were always leaving a door unlocked for me. They just didn’t want to go through the effort (ha!) of getting a key made, but looking back it was probably a bad idea to have an unlocked door so often.
Why do you feel uncomfortable in your FI’s house? Is it new?
Post # 12
I’ll take this as before we lived together. Now that we live together, it IS my house too, haha.
I’d let myself in if he knew I was coming over. I wouldn’t just sneak up on him or anything.
Post # 13
I said no only because my Fiance lives with 2 roommates and didn’t figure it was fair to the roommates for me to come waltzing in. Fiance has a key to my place (which will soon be his) and he lets himself in.
Post # 14
I had a key to DH’s place about 2 weeks after we started dating. He lived alone (with his son) so there wasn’t a roomate issue or anything. I always let myself in.
Post # 15
I had a key to my former FI’s place but I was raised that you knock on doors, locked or unlocked before entering a room/hearing a “come on in.”
Post # 16
Before Fiance and I lived together I was allowed over anytime. He lived in a condo tower and he let the concierge know to always let me up and after a few months he just gave me a key fob to get in the building (I didn’t need a key to his door he never ever locked it) I always went over even when he was at work his old condo tower was about 5 mins from my college and I lived about 30 mins away so in between class I would go over.