(Closed) A little annoyed…BMs, MOH, vent!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Sorry but I would want to bring my husband with me. We wouldn’t be staying with you in a house if you didn’t want any men. I would leave housing up to them.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That sounds like a great deal for a hotel for the weekend!!  I certainly would not be whining if you had gone through the work to arrange a nice big house to stay at for a great price.  Are you friends with all the BMs dates?  Are they invited/coming to the wedding also?  It’s just that as great as a girls night sounds, it might make things a little harder for their dates since they still have to find somewhere to stay?  This is hard, on the one hand, I would think it would be easy to have a girls night, but on the other, if they are traveling for the wedding, they could also see it as a nice get away with their SO and want them to be around also.  If you’re all friends, it could be just as fun to have everyone around instead of just girls?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 I mean I am doing a lot by being willing to pay for a place to stay when I could just stay at my own place

im confused, are you paying for the house because i got the impression the people staying would be paying

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

If the MOH is bringing a date– regardless of whether he is an SO or not– I can see why she wouldn’t want to stay somewhere without him.  If you told her she could bring a date then you should expect that they’ll be staying together. 

I think the housing is a good idea, but since it seems like it won’t work, your MOH could stay somewhere else and visit the house or you could just have them all get a block in a hotel?

(If it were me, I’d just let the guy come and stay at the house. It’d make it even cheaper for everyone involved and seems like the easiest option– if everyone else says they want to stay there, too. If other people are iffy about the idea, then just scrap the house idea.)

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Some people are stingy with money when something isn’t their idea, but are more willing to spend when they get what they want?  Give them two weeks or so to look into hotel rates and see if they come around.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@nikole.powell.np:  ah, sorry but it came across as you were doing everyone a favor by paying but youre not  

to be honest i wouldnt stay in a house with 10 other people and would book a hotel.  if each person (MOH and boyfriend) pay a share to stay there im wondering if a hotel would be cheaper for them/a better suggestion.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m torn here. I know (from experience) that hotel rooms in CO are expensive and the house rentals are a fab idea. In the same breath, I’d want my SO/date to be with me. Seems kinda unfair to make it cheaper for the BMs and then have their dates pay for their own room.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@nikole.powell.np:  oh, in that case..  I guess I’d be confused as to why they wouldnt want to do this.  If I were a 1 of a handful of BMs and single, I’d definitely want to do this house with everyone else.  As for the MOH’s date, if that’s her date, I would expect them to want to stay together, gay or not.  If you say no to him, that would mean he as to stay alone elsewhere?  If this is the last hiccup in the plan, I’d just go along with it.

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