- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Okay so just to start off I am probably the youngest bee here! My birthday is tomorrow and I will be turning 18!! woot woot! right? not. My mother and i got into a huge fight today. About my fiance and I going out of town. What she doesn’t know is that we are going to elope. (We’re going to elope but still have a ceremony and reception later on. We want to just get married and be together with out worrying about convictions and all that. Its hard for us to leave each other at night, i usually end up crying and ofcourse it takes me about half an hour to let him leave. Usually cornering him at the door, with tickles) And the reason she doesn’t know is because we brought it up once and she freaked out on me. Saying that I don’t love her and why would i do that to her, that she wants to fly my brother and grama out for the wedding. and how could i be so selfish. So we dropped it, but are still going to. The only people(besides ya’ll) that know are Mr.Bobby’s parents. Who are really the only people we can trust.
Anyways back to topic. For about two weeks she’s been asking me what I want to do for my birthday. If i want to go on the lake this weekend, and FH and I always say well we’ll be out of town. Once we even discussed just doing it after everyone gets off work tomorrow and going to spend the rest of the day at the lake. Well, I get home from work, she asks if i want to go to the lake friday. I again tell her “no, I’m gonna be out of town.” She just blows up. “You are NOT spending the night out of town with your boyfriend.” “you’re not going to go have sex with your boyfriend.” I kept telling her, mom, i’m going to be 18. I even told her we’re not going to have sex until we’re married. She doesn’t trust me and never has. She’s never even really been there. And to top it off, i’m practically a her slave/servant. And after I’m 18 i’m not going to put up with it. The way she talks, i’ll move out when she’s ready for me too, when she thinks i’m adult-enough. What she doesn’t realize is i’ve practically raised myself, <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>everyone but her and my step father see how mature i am. Sure I have my immature spats, but everyone does.
By the way did I tell you she tried to threaten me? She said that if we did stay over night together alone out of town, Mr.Bobbypin was “never aloud at this house again.” I said “Fine I”ll move out.” She told me no i was not. and because i forgot to put the vaccum away i wasn’t grown up enough. And that sure legaly i’m an adult, but really i’m not. I asked her what would she do?what could she do?I’ll be 18, her response, don’t push it. The reason I don’t do much at her house is because i’m treated as a servant. I’m a waitress so I bust my butt all day long for people i don’t even really know. I work harder than half the people i work with, and it’s not fun to come home and have to start being a waitress/maid all over again, especially without any gratitude. I LOVE to clean and help at other peoples houses because they genuinly appreciate it.
So here’s my plan. Friday Mr.Bobby and i are looking at houses, going to justice of the peace and going out of state(definitely not TOWN, especailly after we found out she was going to be in that town) staying the night at a hotel, coming back the next day.And while my parents are gone, moving all of my stuff out. I”ll be moving into his parents house with him until we can afford our own house. The only things i’ll leave are my bed(she bought), the matresses that came with and a few other small things. In actuality, i didn’t want it to be this way. For months she hasn’t been as controlling as before, you know, she loosend the reins, but now it’s as if they are tigher than ever. I really did not want to move out this soon, but i’m not going to stay here and take it. i feel bad as ever about how it’s going to go down, but, I don’t see another way. I’m worried about our dog though, future in laws do not want her at their house and we don’t know why. I’ll cry my eyes out when we get rid of her.
by the way, I also told her that Mr.bobby and I would be looking for places to get married in June. which is also true.
I’m sorry this is so long! thanks in adance for reading and for your help!