- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I don’t post much, actually just once in the intro thread. But I feel like we may have moved forward or a least I can feel a bit more relaxed about the waiting situation.
Here is the story, My BF and I talk about about marriage and the future often. While it is a regular topic of conversation (he knows I check wedding and baby websites daily)I am cautious not to pressure him. He is younger (by 4 years) than me and I really would like him to take the next because he wants to not because I talked about it and pressured him in to it. On the other hand I am 30 years old and don’t want to wait much longer to move forward.
Anyway, Lately I have been feeling like I am having a conversation with myself and he just nods and smiles but doesn’t actually tell me how he is feeling about the whole thing. So I pushed a little to find out how if his timeline may be a little different than mine. So after a lot of talking and a few tears from both of us (good tears) he basically told me he was starting to research rings and that he would like us to go shopping together but the reasoon he didn’t say anything when I talked was because he really wants to plan something and have it be a surprise and that he wants to make sure he is thinking about a proposal because he is ready not because it is a regular topic of conversation.
After this conversation, I am so much more relax about waiting and more inportantly I feel closer to him and more sure about how much I love him than I did before. (This is where the good tears came in). Just wanted to share with people would would understand, my friends and sister are a little sick of hearing about it 🙂
Thanks for listening