Post # 1
So, for those of you who are already sexually active, I have a question! 🙂 My DH and I have been married for a couple of months now, and while I am able to satisfy him…I haven’t had an orgasm during sex yet at all…
Now, I’ve heard it can be very different for girls. I’ve come close…but it’s only happened by other methods. It doesn’t bother me a lot, but it sure would be nice to have happen! For those of you, what worked and what didn’t? Help! 🙂
Post # 3
Girls are very very unlikely to orgasm from penetration alone. When you are having sex, try touching yourself to get yourself to orgasm. You might need to use toys like a vibrator or a vibrating cock ring.
Post # 4
Try out different positions to see what works for you. Two popular ones are girl on top and girl on bottom with pillow under bum. Also, don’t be afraid to erm, take matters into your own hands (or ask him to) while you’re doin’ the deed. 🙂 I think a lot of it is mental and once it happens once its easier to get there again.
Post # 5
Everyone is different… but the best part is that the only way to solve this problem is practice, practice, practice! 🙂 But without the goal in mind, of course. Just don’t be afraid to speak up if you’re finding something that works – this is a good time to be a lil’ selfish.
Post # 6
For the majority of women, it’s impossible to have an orgasm by intercourse only without other stimulation. While intercourse is exciting and feels good, don’t worry if it doesn’t bring you “there” by itself; it might never happen.
It never did for me, but I do achieve orgasm with my husband every single time bc of other type of stimulation before and during intercourse and I am not dissatisfied with our sex life…
I think all the pornography and magazines and media make us think that vaginal orgasm are the norm, while it’s actually quite rare and we shouldn’t expect it.
Post # 7
I think only 30% of women can do that….kudos for them!
Post # 8
ya, it’s not always vaginal. also, if you’ve not done it before you may want to get comfortable with yourself. You find where it’s good and then you can direct him from there. He will not know unless you help him get to the fountain
Post # 9
We had this discussion during a girls only slumber party in college, and I used to have the cutest photo of my one friend demonstrating the “DS reach around” approach on another girl. Awww, I miss that photo=)
Yes, most people need clitoral stimulation. My old roommate dated a guy who gave her a book of the 3 types of female orgasm: clitoral, Gspot (whcih can be very hard to find) and anal. Yes, he was a big fan of rimjobs, so he thought if he offered to give perhaps he’d receive. She opted instead to get back together with her ex.
Post # 10
I’ve never had an orgasm from just intercourse, it always takes some other type of stimulation from either myself, or my FI. I found that once I had an orgasm once it was much easier to achieve again. I think I wasn’t as worried or anxious thinking something was wrong with me. I just have to remember to relax and not worry about if it’ll happen of if I’ll look sexy while it’s happening ( :
Post # 11
A LOT of foreplay…like oral for 30 minutes….then when you feel it coming…commence…that’s the only thing that works for me. Usually you have to talk to the guy for a while and be really open and honest. As long as you are a giver, then he has NOTHING to complain about, so don’t let him tell you it’s too hard.
no pun intended.
Post # 12
<—seconds the reach around if he can pull it off.
Post # 13
I also find…if he gives me a long foot and back rub before…it helps me a lot. i think it’s because i’m more relaxed and have more time to become aroused. maybe it also helps with blood flow?
but seriously, i LOVE to have my skin touched all over and being naked with him but not FOR him is really hot to me.
Post # 14
oh…one more thing…for the massage, i have him use a lotion that i think smells sexy.
Post # 15
haha. ok last thing…try kama sutra, cosmo-style. click the link above and then go to sex & love, then to positions. Great advice there! Helped me a ton!
Post # 16
Start thinking about making love an hour before you would actually do it. Think about how it feels, picture making love to your husband in your mind, all the things you like him doing. By the time you make love, you will already be excited and turned on. Maybe it will make it easier for you to have an orgasm.