Post # 1
This is my first post on the Nesting boards. My FI and I have been together two and a half years and are getting married in six weeks. He is 41 and I am 38. When I was in my 20s, I was told it would be very difficult for me to have children. It was devastating to me because I have always wanted to be a mother. Eventually I accepted it. Then a few months into our relationship, by a miracle, and complete surprise, I found out I was pregnant. I had a miscarriage the day after Christmas, six weeks in. I unexpectedly became pregnant again two months after the D&C (we didn’t think I’d be able to conceive again so soon) and lost that one as well. Now we are talking about TTC after the wedding, and I am scared to death. My doctor thinks I’ll be able to have a healthy pregnancy even though it will be high risk. But I’m scared to death because, God forbid, if I did have another miscarriage, I don’t think I’d be able to handle it.
Have any other Bees had a miscarriage and felt the same way? I want to try again but I’m afraid.
Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
@MrsYokiman: I’m really sorry to hear about your losses, that must have been so difficult to go through, twice. I can’t help you from a personal experience standpoint but I have read a rather absurd amount of books on conception and infertility issues, maybe if I knew more about your specific issues I could point you in the direction of some good resources – what was the reason they gave you regarding why it would be difficult for you to conceive? Were you able to get any information about potential explanations for your miscarriages, or were they just considered to be random / normal?
I read this book, about multiple pregnancy loss and some potential solutions and explanations for it, maybe it would help you:
Post # 4
Have you tried pushing for repeat pregnancy loss testing? I was able to get my drs to test me after 2 miscarriages and found out that I have MTHFR mutations (oh joy) and a septum in my uterus. I’m curious too about the answers to the questions that the pp asked. I knew before my first miscarriage that I have PCOS, Hashimotos, and have age to deal with (I’m 37) and that all 3 can contribute to miscarriage.
I’ve had 5 miscarriages now. It’s hard and I’m currently still ttc while I think seriously about how much more I can take before I break completely. It sucks. 🙁 It’s such a personal decision coming up with when is too much and it’s time to quit. If you feel like it’s time for you to quit, then that’s what you should do. If you just can’t give up trying (like me for now), then I’ll tell that that you will find you are stronger then you think despite how much it sucks. My thoughts and prayers are with you that a sticky bean is in the near future for you.
Post # 5
I want to give you both a HUG. xox
Post # 6
I am so sorry,ladies..so much effort and pain and struggle to be a mother..it was also because of you ladies that i decided to have this baby i am carrying. It was a surprise pregnancy so for awhile me and my husband were considering all options, for many reasons. One of the reasons that gave me strenghth to have this baby was knowing how many wonderful women would love to be in my position.
Wishing you all the best and blowing baby dust your way..