Post # 1
Hey Bees! Need some advice…
So, I was pretty sure I had my bridal party set…4 girls, 6 guys. However, I have a good friend that I don’t talk too much throughout the year because she lives about 3 hours away, however, we make it a point to hang out and catch up pretty much every time she’s back in town for an extended period of time.
We were very good friends in high school and she is still one person that I am comfortable sharing deep stuff with than most of my other friends. I just don’t know if she’s on the “bridesmaid” level? I do cherish her friendship, however…my hesitations are simply because how far away she lives and that we don’t really talk unless she’s back in town.
Any Bees in a similar situation care to share what they did/are doing? I do appreciate my friend, and when I think about having my shower and whatnot, she is someone that I would definitely want there…what to do??
Post # 3
I completely understand your dilema. When I had a similar situation I thought long and hard about my ladies and would-be ladies, our relationships (past and present) and what I pictured for the wedding day. In the end I decided that if I had to think about whether or not a person should be an attendant, she shouldn’t be. There is a difference between wanting someone at a shower/bachelorette/party and wanting her to stand beside you as you publicly unite yourself your love.
Let your heart be your guide. Good luck!
Post # 4
I understand. I was maid of honor in my cousins wedding 6 years ago,but now that it’s my turn to choose my wedding party, I just felt that I was a lot closer to other people. It was especially difficult since I was her maid-of-honor, but just remember that it is your wedding and she should understand. By inviting her to showers and other exciting wedding stuff, that should help her see that you still cherish her as a friend and want her to be part of your wedding without being a bridesmaid.
Post # 5
@ms.moonlight: That is great advice! I’ll think that over as I decide. Thanks for sharing! 🙂