(Closed) A little bridezilla feel :/ in need of advice

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why don’t you delay your honeymoon? An employer will be much more receptive to you taking off a weekend + a few days versus over a week. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

What about a fall wedding?  That will allow you to focus on your last semesters of school.

 

And people will hire you, for sure!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just to be polite I personally would put at least a month between her wedding and yours. Especially if you’re going to have some overlapping guests, expecting them to travel two weekends in a row (or even two in a month) might be a bit much. What about doing a late summer wedding?

If you are going to be a brand new hire somewhere I’d just ask off for the wedding and postpone the honeymoon IMO, unless they are really generous with time off.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Often when you get hired after school, they ask you when your start date should be since some schools get out earlier or later than others.

Just explain to them, I’m getting married in June, so it would be great if my start date could be July 1. Or something like that! They will understand, especially if you haven’t started yet.l That’s much easier than trying to hit up your new employer for vacation right away.

I have friends that just graduated in early May, and some started June 1st, July 1st, and some aren’t even starting til August.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m also in grad school for speech path and from everything I’ve heard, your CYF doesn’t have any specific start date. That’s between you and your supervisor/place ofemployment. For example, students who graduate in December don’t have to wait until a certain month (may) or timeframe. Why not set your CYF up to start after your honeymoon? I think asking for time off right away will come off the wrong way. Hope this helps! 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can’t really give advice on the date selection as I don’t know your family dynamic, wedding styles, and guests’ travel situations.  But as someone who’s been in the workforce for a long time, I can pretty much guarantee you that if you’re the best candidate for a job, you won’t be turned down just because you’ve already got an out-of-town trip booked.  If you’re looking to take a month off, that’s different, but a week or two of honeymoon is not unreasonable and shouldn’t affect your employment chances.  Employers know that people plan trips far in advance, and are not willing to lose out on the best candidate simply because they’ll be absent for a week early in their employment.

Just make it clear that you don’t expect to be paid for the time off unless you’ve already met the employer’s requirement for paid time off benefits.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry to hear your situation – it can’t be easy planning a wedding while in school! My sister is an SLP and I know grad school was brutal for her!  I think a June wedding would be wonderful – perfect time of year!  I wouldn’t worry about having to take time early after starting a new job – I have found employers are usually pretty flexible about this. If they want you then it won’t be an issue. That being said, I would never mention it until you get the offer!  Unless they directly ask you then obviously don’t lie. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got engaged May 4th 2012 and am graduating May 8th of 2013 and will be moving and getting a new job. My wedding is Sept 28th 2013 and honeymoon will be right after or within a month or two. I will absolutely not say a word about my wedding or honeymoon at job interviews, it’s none of their business!! I’m sure I can get (unpaid) time off for it later, so I don’t want to even bring it up before I’m hired, I think it’s actually kind of unprofessional anyway. I would want my wedding to be far enough away from my sister’s that people can travel again and won’t just think “hey we just went to this.” If I were you I would choose August or September, plus that will give you time to get settled into a new job. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@ILbride2013:  I’m a speech language pathologist as well.  Do you have any idea if you want to work in a hospital or school setting?  I ask because most public schools don’t start until later in the summer, so you would be able to have your wedding and honeymoon without having to worry about taking a bunch of time off.  

When I signed my first contract, it was about 2 months before I graduated (May) but I didn’t start working full time until late July because I was placed in a year round public school.  We had the option of doing per diem work in the meantime.  I only just got married recently but we picked our date to coincide with summer vacation.

You may be able to make it work depending on what type of position you want to apply for.

Sorry about all the family drama!  I hope your last year of school goes well and you find a job you love.  Have fun planning the wedding.

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