Post # 1
So, in the middle of the night I got a text from a friend letting me know that my boss and her BF of a year got engaged. I am SO happy for them. My boss had a rough year and so I’m really glad to see her finally happy! I know better than to compare relationships, but I can’t help but feel a little disappointed with my situation. This is not the first time one of my friends is getting engaged before me, but now that i feel ready to get engaged, I can feel the ugly green monster bubbling to the surface. I need to get this out of my head so that I don’t let him see my disappointment.
I should add that my bf has given me a timeline of late March and I trust him to make this happen for us. I am just a little sad that its still not the right time for us. The past few months since returning from our anniversary vacation in Hawaii, I have had 3 friends have babies and now this engagement. I feel like my life is on hold. And I’m so ashamed of myself for feeling like this :-/ I have a good life with a good man and I know that.
well anyway, I hope that you lovely ladies are having a wonderful Christmas!
ETA – typing on the iPad stinks! Sorr for all the typos!
Post # 3
You are definitely NOT alone! My FI and I were together for five years before he proposed – friends of ours had met, dated, gotten engaged, gotten married, and had kids within that time. It’s hard not to feel bummed that it’s not you, you know?
March will be here before you know it, and in the meantime, the Bees are here for you!
Post # 4
I think it is ok to feel this way – it is part of human nature. What will make it wrong – is taking it out on him or letting this “green monster” live rent free in yor heart & head. Yes, everyone around you is moving on in some way or another. around you, but so are you. Look back a year ago, look back 2 years ago…I’m sure you and you BF has come leaps and bounds.
Edited to add: Oh and to add what PP said, yes my FI & I were together also about 5 or actually closer to 6 yrs, before he proposed and I never got a timeline at all…I did spend last xmas in my bathroom crying because I swore I was getting a ring. I didn’t (I can’t even remember what I did get – but let me tell you there was NO lil box under that damn tree) and when I finally came out of the bathroom I tried REALLY HARD (failed though) not to mention it to him.
Post # 5
LOL – I just realized a new acronym…ETA is Edited To Add…My silly butt kept reading – Estimated To Arrive (like the airlines)…whoo…
Post # 6
@purpledaisies: Here’s how you can look at it in a positive light….by not getting engaged on Christmas, you have something to look forward to and March is really not far away at all! Plus, I got enaged on Christmas, and now no Christmas now will ever live up to that for me. When DH asked me what I wanted this year, it was to get engaged again!
Plus, as you’ve already said, you shouldn’t compare yourself with the timelines of other realtionships. I had friends wait years and years and now that they’re married, it doesn’t matter how long they waited for it to happen!
Post # 7
@purpledaisies: Don’t feel bummed, March is just around the corner. like you said, “I have a good life with a good man and I know that.” so don’t worry, your time is coming and soon.
But, I do understand “the green eyed monster”. I’m currently helping my friend plan her June wedding. Im in the wedding as well, then my oldest sister (who just got married at the court house last year) is ready to plan for a ceremony for March 2014. so I will be helping her start planing after the holidays. I get the feeling too, but I know when my time comes they will be over the moon for me.
Post # 8
Thanks to all of you for your positive replies! I know Maech is right there in sight…and I can’t be disappointed because I wasn’t expecting it. I am very surprised at how much someone else engagement is throwing me for a loop though.
@celticbride: you have a really good point. Christmas would never be the same if he did propose, so I guess that’s a sort of good reason not to be too bummed lol
Post # 9
I know – it is hard. I was in your position last Christmas. Even though you know it is right around the corner, you can’t help but feel a little sad today. But come March, you are going to be soooo happy!
Post # 10
@LilacViolet: I love your user name! I hope that the days until March just fly by and I eventually forget this sadness 🙂