Post # 1
So my situation is this… Live in one city and all my 6 BM except FI’s sister lives all over canada (some in other countires), and Im pretty sure most people including my family wont be flying in for the wedding until the “week of” sometime… I have 2 already confirmed for tuesday and one wed morning… Its looking like My stagette is basically going to be Wednesday night… in calgary… whippie lol! So i dunno My MOH is going to try to plan something good… but really its wednesday, and I cant really afford to be that out of commission 3 days bfr my wedding. Thursday is going to be nails etc… and last minute stuff, and friday is rehersal etc…
I know I’ll have fun, but it’s driving me crazy that FI’s friends are not backing down on doing some kind of crazy ass trip somewhere. a) Im not too ok with certain places b) most of his friends have zero money and cant pay for stuff but SOMEHOW when it comes to a bach party they have cash coming out their ass??? I dont get it. c) I just feel like its not fair LOL….I know rationally its not FI’s fault all my girls arnt really here…but It just hurt me that he said “well its not my problem and it doesnt mean Im going to hold back on mine…”
thanks….. ass….all Im doing is having a moment of pouting because your going to have this epic weekend/week whatever, and I get dinner and a few drinks and all you can do is get defensive and say “im not giving up my party”
….chances are I wont get a bridal shower either. 🙁 ok I’m done, I just needed a vent.
Post # 3
Hi! Just wanted to say that I understand. Out of my 5 BM’s, only 1 was local, everyone else was spread out all over the USA. I had my bachelorette party during the week of my wedding, and honestly…it was great. It was a nice mental break from everything that needed to be done, and it was nice to spend time with my girls! We still went out and had drinks, but it wasn’t anything crazy at all (which is absolutely fine with me, because that’s not my style). It was honestly just nice spending time with everyone, especially since we don’t get to see each other all that often.
Is there a family member who would throw your bridal shower for you? I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times, and for the most part, family members took on that task. With some of them, I helped, but didn’t really have to shoulder the cost. Would that be an option?
I can also understand being frustrated at your FI…definitely not the reaction I would be hoping for either! My piece of advice is that it’s not the craziness of the weekend that makes it…it’s getting to spend time with everyone. One of my friends had this huge weekend bachelorette trip to Vegas planned. Everyone got into fights, they had problems with hotel reservations. Even though it seemed like it was going to be amazing, it ended up being more of a headache. Not wishing anything bad on your FI, but just saying that everything doesn’t always turn out as amazing as it sounds.
Post # 4
yeah, my FI is going for 3 nights with his groomsmen to either cancun or the bahamas. i don’t know what i’m doing yet, but def nothing that involves flying somewhere/going on a crazy trip/doing something extravagant.
ETA: his groomsmen also supposedly have no money. idk i guess i’ve gotten over it at this point & cant be bothered to do much for my own party
Post # 5
@keepsmiling19: Thanks for the replies. Yes its not even the whole crazyness thing Im after? It’s more just that its like a “sidenote” in comparrison to his lol. Honestly I cant party like I used to anyways, I was just worried about it being that week because its going to be so busy anyways :s BUT that is a good point it will be a nice break!
I guess it’s been also a worry for me because FI (as wonderful as HE is) some of his friends are….not so…. trustworthy? I mean most of them have gottin out of all the crap from the past but lets just say there have been some sorted things go on before me… and some of them have mentioned things about his “bachelor party” that I have been like really not ok with….and I’ve been told to my face it pretty much doesnt matter what I think.
I dunno, I worry (not so much about strippers) but other things that some of them still dabble in (let just say certain drugs)…. It pisses me off because FI got over that stage years ago (yes he effed up big time when he was 20-22) but he’s got his education now, a real career, a life….
FI also has really off reactions to stuff now (im talkin coffee, vitamins….) like he’s italian and used to drink 4-8 espressos a day, and god knows what else, and now he has a regular brew coffee and is ZOOMING off the walls…even vitamins that WE BOTH TAKE and im half his size…. I’ve told certain ppl I think might try to bring some “party favors” that if they do and I find out??? DO NOT COME NEAR ME FOR A LONG TIME…because I will try to hurt you!
Also FI doesnt want anything to do with it but I just dont know if they are going to care….and all these guys are still in their “im young and have plenty of time to settle down”, so they go out a lot… FI doesnt and he cant handle alcohol anymore, BUT he does try to keep up with the guys….and thats also a worry (him passing out and cholking) while all his friends are still going.
WHY CANT THEY JUST STAY IN THE DAMN CITY AND DO A ONE NIGHTER LIKE NORMAL PEOPLE….FACK!!