(Closed) A little bummed

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t want to put words in your mouth, but I get the feeling you’re not entirely ok with  eloping to vegas?

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Congrats on the engagement.  Don’t worry about FI, a lot of guys are not really into the whole wedding thing.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am Eloping to a Destination Wedding with my guy (just the 2 of us staring into each others eyes, as we say our Vows before our Officiant and the Atlantic Ocean)

So I get how there isn’t a lot to plan… at least at first glance.

Here then a few things (ideas) that I’ve found out since I buzzed into WBee back in May

Elopements are great, they tend to be less stressful than the BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding (did that once already back in the 1980s)

You can make your Elopement JUST about the 2 of you… no big distractions.  Which IMO will make our Vows more central to this Wedding vs the last one.

Customize it however you like (Mr TTR is excited about wearing Dockers & Flip Flops and I gonna be rockin a Wedding Dress).  So you can browse Pinterest & WBee to your hearts desire for inspirational ideas on what to wear, hair, flowers, etc

Elopement Weddings can be more about Planning the Honeymoon… because you have time to do it… with a regular big wedding, Honeymoons tend to be after thoughts.

No one says, that an Elopement & Honeymoon have to be ALL THERE IS.  If you want you can plan a Back Home Reception / Party for friends & family when you get home (or a Vow Renewal or Kick-Ass Anniversary Party sometime down the road)

The COOL thing is, THERE ARE NO RULES for these types of things… so you can make it as Big or Small as you like, Formal or Informal… All Wedding-like or not.

Invitations, Decor, Cocktails, Food, Cake, Champagne, DJ & Dancing… Dress or not.  It is ALL up to you.  Do as much as you want… or nothing.

Lol, more reasons to browse Pinterest & WBee.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SapphireSun:  I got that same feeling from reading her post.

OP, you can always do a fun vow renewal on one of your anniversaries (like an Elvis wedding in Vegas), but if you decide later that you wished you had done a more traditional style of wedding you can’t really re-create that.  Sure, you could pay and try to do a traditional wedding later on, but your family and friends won’t be as into it because you’ll already be married.  If you like the thought of a bridal shower or planning or having some good friends as your bridal party, you might want to think about having even a small, but more traditional, wedding.  It may feel more “real” to you and your FI and might get him more involved in the planning.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

My FI and I had originally planned to do the whole Vegas thing (I never really wanted a wedding), but as things went along, he explained that he wanted a more traditional wedding with our friends and family there.  At first I groaned at the idea of having to pick everything out instead of just having a hotel take care of it.  I agreed to a local wedding where we live, and now I’m really enjoying the experience.  I’m so glad he said something because now I have my girls coming out from CA to be in my bridal party and I’m flying out next week to go meet up with them and do a little girls night. 

Sometimes people aren’t on the same page when it comes to romance, so it just takes a little communication.  If you want your wedding to be a certain way, tell your groom!  There’s nothing wrong with wanting your man to be a little more romantic.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just cause you’re eloping doesn’t mean you can’t shop for a fab dress, shoes, veil, jewelry, flowers for bouquet, photographer, mini cake for your hotel room! Eloping doesn’t mean giving up on all the romance : ) I saw this thread the other day and thought of it while reading your post http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-vintage-inspired-courthouse-wedding-sept-14-2012-pro-pics

Congrats! Have fun with it! : )

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@VioletSky:  + 1

You can do all those things, it will be fablulous. And not all guys do a big magical proposal, many are just excited to ask and that is the most important thing. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Don’t feel bad that your engagement wasn’t all spectacular and Pinterest-worthy.  If you were marrying a guy that would do all sorts of big stuff for your engagement, then he would probably be different in other aspects of your life too.

Sometimes guys are just… guys.  When my brother got engaged, he proposed in a bathroom. Yes. According to him, he wanted to set up a bunch of candles and stuff, but he wanted it to be a surprise, and they only way he could arrange a room in secret was to use… the bathroom.  So, sometimes they just don’t get it πŸ™‚  

But it sounds like you’ve got a guy who wants to be with you, so embrace his uniqueness.  

Also, you can do some girly stuff even if it’s less traditional.  You’ll still need some kind of dress.  And you’ll need accessories and all that fun stuff.  And we’re not even having a cake, but I’ve considered going to some cake tastings just because it would be fun.  Go crazy.  You’re only engaged once πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Busy bee

If my guy makes a big deal out of the proposal I’ll be seriously pissed off.  I know that I may be weird that way and that most women enjoy having a very special moment when their man proposes.  That’s cool…it’s just not me.

Live vicariously through the boards if you like, but you may notice that there are just as many stress-related, fiasco-of-the-moment threads as the ones that recap wonderful proposals and mushy stuff.  That’s great because it shows snippets of real life.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that you may not get to do all that girly stuff, but you probably won’t get into an argument with anyone over your choices.

Oh and Viva Las Vegas πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I know this is a crazy parallel to draw but it totally fits here.

 

I read the Sister Wives book that recently came out and one of the wives is not so romantic.  She’s practical, really practical, and not flirty huggy touchy in love.  She said she fell into a trap of comparing her relationship to that of her sister wives because she started to envy the way they were flirty huggy touchy, even though that wasn’t her nature.

 

She said that she had to remind herself not to want apples even when she really wanted pears JUST because the other women were getting apples.

 

What you have with your fiance is perfect for the two of you.  Who cares what the other girls are having.  Go get your pears and stop focusing on apples!

Post # 16
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Busy bee

And also, if you have a few grand to spend and want to make your day REALLY memorable, Las Vegas is home to the BEST photographers ever (imo).

 

altf.com and their blog is earth13.com

 

They’re a great team, fun couple, and they know some really interesting places in Vegas that will translate fantasticly in your album (like a “graveyard” for old broken vegas signs and lights that looks incredible or an old mine in a picturesque ghost town).

 

I wanted to plan a whole wedding around this company but the SO told me no Vegas πŸ™

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