Post # 1
Hi bees. Some of you may know from other posts of mine, than DH & I moved out of state roughly a week after we got married. We moved from Kentucky to Michigan, I think it’s roughly a 10 hour drive to get back, home. Ky is the only place I’ve ever lived, & all of my immediate family is still there.
I’ve been looking for work, and have a pretty good chance of getting a PT teller position. I should know by Friday, and I’m hoping I get it.
I’m mostly just feeling alone here. :- I haven’t made any friends yet, so I think working would be a great way for me to get out there and meet people, and feel a little more productive. Currently, I’m a housewife, and without having any friends here, it’s lonely. I text/call friends & family back home often, but it’s not the same.
How have you adjusted after moving away from home? We’ve been here 2 months now, and it still doesn’t feel like home yet. I figured it’ll take a while, but I’m really hoping it gets better soon.
I’ve been looking into volunteering for big brothers/big sisters, but I’m waiting to see if this job pans out. Also, I may be taking a couple of classes starting next month at the local university here. So I imagine working/going to school would be a good way to meet people and feel more comfortable here, but what could I do until then?
Post # 3
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@roweboat: Hopefully working will get you feeling better and making friends. I’ve never moved too far from home, don’t think I could *hugs!*
From another Michigander, get out there and explore your new area with DH!
Post # 4
@mchitt329: He’s been making a few friends through his new job, and there are a few of them that have wives. They’ve talked about having a book club/coffee group for the spouses to meet up, but I haven’t heard anything else about it. I would definitely go if they decided to have it, though!
& yep, I really think working will be a great thing, I think that would pretty much eliminate the loneliness. Everyone at the bank I applied to seems really friendly, so that’s why I am really hoping it works out.
Post # 5
@roweboat: I think as you say, when you get a job and possibly start volunteering and taking some classes, you will meet people.
I am assuming you’re not religious… I’ve heard churches can be a great way to get into a new community.
Just know that what you’re feeling is totally normal. Some people handle change better than others. 2 months is not a long time. Hell, it took me a full year to feel settled in my new place when I moved out of my mom’s… and I just moved a 30 min drive from her!
I found that putting up nice pictures (artwork, family photos etc.) helped the place feel more homey. And lots of cozy throw blankets. And getting my cat lol.
Do you Skype? I know it’s not the same, but seeing peoples’ faces can help a lot.
Post # 6
@canarydiamond: Before we moved, DH & I talked about going to church when we got here. We just haven’t taken the time to get involved in finding a church that will fit us. That could be a good option, though. 🙂 I still have to hang pictures & stuff up. We’re still unpacking boxes too, so I think once that process is finally finished, this will feel more like home. Putting up our Christmas tree, along with a few pictures of family & friends has helped. I’ve never skyped at all, but I might have to try it! My dad calls me every few days, so it helps to hear his voice.
Post # 7
We were exactly the same, got married and then moved across the country a month later. It was really hard until I started going to school and working to meet people. It’s been about 3.5 years and honestly it still doesn’t really feel like home here. I miss our families.
Post # 8
We moved from KS to AK and I know how you’re feeling.
Even after 9 months here, it doesn’t feel like “home.” It’s been hard to meet good people, even though we both work full time.
Take some time and decorate your new house and get everything in its place.
As for being bored at home, start up a new project, work out more, there’s lots to do that you will miss once you’re busy again!
I’m sure that you’ll be just fine! 🙂
Post # 9
My ex used to be transferred by his employer every year. It’s up tp you to make the first move. You are the one who needs new friends. The people there already have friends.
It will be hard right now at holiday time, but don’t hold back. Invite a couple from work over for coffee. Don’t do dinner invitations at first, till you see how you get along.
There are some things you can do at this time of year. Get yourself out the door- take a class, volunteer at something- go visit seniors in care homes, offer to wrap packages for a charity etc etc. You never know who yoou will meet.
Post # 10
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: We’re lucky in the fact that his siblings & his dad live about an hour & a half away. So he’s happy to be closer to them, since he’s been in KY for the last 10 years or so. But for me, it almost makes me miss my family even more when I’m around his family. I know we’re married, and that they’re my family now too, but it’s still different.
@alaska_99705: I have a feeling it will probably be the same for me, that it still won’t feel like home being here. We’ll only be here 3 years, so then we get to go through this whole process again. :- I definitely need to do some more decorating & things like that, though. I’ve toyed with the idea of getting my Etsy shop up & going again too, while I’m not working yet.
@julies1949: I think I’m a little afraid about coming across in a weird way, if I just try to start talking to people, invite them for coffee, etc. I can’t remember ever really doing that before, so I don’t want to come across as a weirdo, lol. DH might be working with a charity on Friday though, that is similar to toys for tots. I told him that I’d like to come along if they need volunteers, so that would be a good idea 🙂