- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
So we’ve already gotten married and our local reception is this saturday.
I’ve posted about our issues on having to change venues last minute that was last week. Everything has been sorted pretty much, but I feel I have never felt so stressed.
Anyway, I am not sure how I’m supposed to feel but right now I feel like my own parents are not very helpful and it is frustrating me a little.
Here’s the deal. We self funded the whole thing except for the religious wedding my husband mother wanted to do. We had a real wedding in his country, and a local reception that’s happening this saturday where we live, which HIS immediate family is coming as well.
I never expected anyone to assist us financially for wedding and self funding it has always been the norm to me. But, his family who has more flexibility because they are self employed went above and beyond in taking care of my family while we were there like got us all hotel rooms and all.
Now this time it’s HIS family visiting so my family should return the favor and show hospitality, however, they can’t do just as much because situation here is different. Work and logistics get in the way and just really not realistic that my family would return the favor in the same kind of way. So I’m trying to do what I can in assisting his family instead.
My issue is that my mother comes across like she’s doing ME a favor for this reception. All she’s doing is way less than what my husband family has done for her/ my family. She’s doing SOME things that I asked her to do but that’s it.
My husband seems to think my parents are not doing anything whereas his did so much. And that’s kind of true but it’s also cultural difference and our expectations are different.
Anyway I am so stressed out and my skin is not in good condition. I feel more stressed than excitement.
Luckily friends have been amazing and refreshing, and seem really looking forward to joining us on the day.
Sorry that was a long rant.