Post # 1
I am the first of my friends to get married- sort of…
Well, I am the first of my friends to plan a wedding anyways.
Therefore, I have NO idea when I should ask my friends to be my bridesmaids?!
I have a long engagement planned, but am planning 90 % of my wedding now so as to pay for it and get all my DIY completed by the time the FI finishes his courses at college. Therefore, I am unsure when I should ask the lovely ladies to be BM’s!
What do you think?
Post # 3
A year or so. I think it gives them ample time to plan and save.
Post # 4
I say around a year is good. I didnt tell them right away because i wanted time to think clearly before being bombarded with different opinions. My Bms had about were informed about 11 months out
Post # 5
I said a year before, but I don’t know who your BMs are. The thing is, if your wedding is over 2 1/2 years away, your friendships can and will change during that time. One of your friends could meet a guy, get engaged, get married and get pregnant. Maybe you’d grow apart? Maybe not though.
If you’re asking your sisters or something, where you know your relationship won’t change, then asking them now is no problem. But given how far off the wedding is, I’d wait a while before asking your friends. A year out is still plenty of time to help DIY, plan showers and bachelorettes, etc.
Just my thoughts.
Post # 6
I would definitely wait until about a year away. Relationships can change so much, and you don’t want to regret your decision, or have to ask someone to step down (ouch).
Post # 7
I agree, wait until around a year. Right now is definitely too soon because you never know what will happen from now till your wedding.
Post # 8
I asked my BM’s a year ago and my wedding is this July. It gave them time to plan travel arrangements and save some money.
Post # 9
My wedding is in September this year, and I asked my bridesmaids in June 2010. At the time we all felt like there was heaps of time to plan! 🙂