(Closed) A little personal…maybe even TMI that’s why I’m posting….

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I dont see anything wrong with it. I like my hair pulled. everyone has their “thing”

Post # 4
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Fetishes are ok and if you’re both having a good time, I wouldn’t worry so much. No one is going to judge you for what goes on in the privacy of your bedroom. 

Post # 5
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i think a little rough play is normal – to each his own right? im not usually one for choking but a little spanking or hair pulling is right up my alley.

Post # 6
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Totally healthy and normal. I’m not a choking fan (then again, never tried it, so who knows for sure), but really, nearly ANYTHING is ok in the bedroom as long as you and your partner are both comfortable with it and know what the personal boundaries are for such activities. No worries! Communication is key, and from there you can choke, spank, tie up, whatever floats your boat, safely 🙂

Post # 7
1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You are not weird at all. There is actually a name for it. Erotic asphyxiation. Here is the Wikipedia link. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotic_asphyxiation

I have heard about this and even tried it myself but I’m just too scared of passing out or dying to enjoy it. 

Please do not feel weird or ashamed. It your sex life. If you and your Fiance enjoy it then have fun! Just be careful. Smile

Post # 8
5170 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t see the problem? You like what you like! 

Post # 9
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nah its perfectly ok if you both want it and have the rules set

Post # 11
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@foreverhis: I think your cowork doth protest too much. She’s probably got a swing set up in her bedroom 😉

Post # 12
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

This topic is SO dependent on the couple. It totally doesn’t fit into the intimate life I share with my husband. But that doesn’t mean it’s “wrong” for you.

I think the main question, when it comes to anything in this side of your personal life, is whether you are comfortable and feel safe and fully trust your partner. From what you wrote, it sounds like the answer is “yes” to all of those.

I’d be concerned if sometimes the heat of the moment caused either of you to lose control and possibly get hurt. Or if you start to feel afraid. But until then, as long as you and your Fiance can communicate about it, and you’re both okay with it, then you’re good. I’d just suggest to be careful and stay aware of any signs that the dynamic is shifting into something less pleasing.

Post # 13
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s normal. Then again, I like to be choked, smacked (butt), hair pulled and anything of that nature. I say (but don’t mean AT ALL) “You could punch me in the face, and I’d love it!”

Post # 15
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It may be related to BDSM, but so what?  Lots of people enjoy a little of that in their sex lives.  Rather than letting your coworker make you feel bad, I’d feel bad for her.  That’s a whole ton of fun stuff that she’ll never get to enjoy (at least not until she opens up a little!).

Post # 16
1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have friends who are into this and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. IMO, anything goes in the bedroom as long as both partners are safe, comfortable and feel respected. I work in a domestic violence shelter, so I can assure you there’s no correlation between a little bit of “danger” in the bedroom and violence in the home in other areas, which I think is a common misconception. You’re totally normal…get it girl! 

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