- 5 years ago
- Wedding: Central Park
I know that no one is ever as excited about your wedding as you are. I’m marrying my best friend in a month and I’m thrlled and can not wait. But as it gets closer to the day I get sadder that my sister has had zero interest. Early on my mother pressured me to make her a bridesmaid. Since mom and dad are funding the wedding I gave in and asked her. She accepted with an “um… yeah if you want me to.” I tried to ignore her absolute lack of enthusiasm for months.
I’ve reached out to her a couple of times in the last 8 months and she just absolutely doesn’t care at all about my life. My mom says she’s feeling jealous that I’m the younger sister and I’m getting married first, even though she’s been with her boyfriend for over ten years. She used to say that she never wanted to get married but now she says she thought she’d be married before age 30. I understand where she’s coming from. And your feelings are your feelings and they’re neither right nor wrong, it’s just how you feel. But it hurts that she doesn’t appear to give one crap about me or my wedding.
I tried to get her involved in the dress search and she just wasn’t into it. I mailed her the dress a few weeks ago and sent her a message that I mailed it. I never even got a “got the dress, it fits” reply. Nothing. I messaged her giving her more details and asked if she got the dress and she just said “yep” and that was it. We used to be really close 15 years ago, then she moved away, then I went to college, then we drifted apart. I’m just sad that we don’t talk like we used to. I guess I never really thought about it much, just around the holidays, but now I realize how much we’ve drifted and it makes me terribly sad. But I feel like I’m trying and I just get nothing. I’ve had friends where this has happened, but it’s worse that it’s family. I don’t really know what to do. I guess I just needed to vent.