Post # 1
I think I just needed a minute to be a little sad about my upcoming wedding shower attendance. We live in Boston, my mom lives in NJ and siblings all over, and most of FH’s family is in upstate NY. So I really wanted to try and make things easy and only wanted one wedding shower. It made sense to me to have it where I live but since we’re getting married in Vermont my mom was feeling left out. She really wanted the shower to be near her and where I grew up.
It’s the first week in August and my sister just let me know that of the 45 people invited- only 15 can attend. I almsot feel like- what is the point of this shower?? I have to drive in for it and so does FH and it just feels like a waste of time. If it were here I know that a lot of friends would be able to attend. But with it all the way in NJ and my mom lives in a tiny ass house it doesn’t make sense logistically or finacially for people to travel to it. I’m not making a big deal over it because everything is already planned but it’s literally going to be me- My mom and Aunt, FH’s mom and great aunt, two cousins, my sisters, future SIS, my best friend, and two of my mom’s friends. How sad is that? We have 160 people we’re inviting to the wedding so it’s not like it was a small selection. OK I’m done venting now. Thanks for listening!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
That’s a perfect size. I had 16, and I was able to talk to everyone, opening gifts didn’t take 2 hours, and the guests got to spend more time mingling- my Mom was able to meet every friend there.
Showers aren’t going to be something that most people will make a first priority, and it sounds like your most important women are going to be there, which is awesome.
Post # 4
@rebwana: Thanks! You’re right- My sisters, my best friend, Mom’s- that’s really all that mattered anyway!
Post # 5
I know exactly how you feel. Out of over 30 people invited, only about 15 came. I was initailly disappointed and a little hurt, but once I got to the shower I forgot about all that. The women who were there were the women who I am the closet too and I got a chance to have real conversations with everyone and actually sit down and eat (and I stil got a ton of great gifts)!
Post # 6
I just had my home-town shower, and there was a less than stellar turn out. However, the most important people were there: my two sisters and three cousins (all my bridesmaids), my mom, my FI’s mom, a couple of my aunts and cousins, and one of my really good childhood friends.
It was perfect, because everyone was able to mingle and enjoy each others’ company.
Post # 7
I had 22 people…… which i thought was a small number compared to some other friends’ showers with like 50 guests…. but i realized that when i was at those showers, i didn’t really enjoy myself at all because i didn’t get to actually spend any time with the bride and i didn’t know a lot of people and it’s always a little awkward going to a party when you don’t know anyone! i think the smaller the number, the more enjoyable it is for you and your guests. 15 sounds like a good number to me!