Post # 1
I wrote a post at the beginning of the week very confused about love. How I was supposed to feelbe in my relationship, even to the point of reconsidering whether i really wanted to go ahead with my planned wedding.
After receiving many wonderful replies and hearing from other members of the board, I soon realised my thoughts were very much normal! This as you can imagine was a humungous weight off of my shoulders. I am back to feeling excited about my wedding day and what the future holds for both my partner.
Anyways, whilst looking for table decoration inspiration today, ii came acrross the following quote and really wanted to share it with others who are maybe feeling confused like I was.
I hope this puts a smile on your faces half as much as it did me 🙂 Enjoy xx
“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which ay fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom has fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
aww I love that quote but I never read the whole thing! Good for you for getting your head back in order. Now enjoy yourself!
Post # 5
@ConfusedBrideToBe: lovely…and so true. glad to see your happy again!!!
Post # 6
This is beautiful, I truly thank you for sharing it. I have always found comfort in quotes because they show me that some feelings are completely natural. I don’t need this yet (hopefully I will never need to read this again for advice in my relationship) but I will alwaya remember this.
Post # 7
I’m quite sure that lovely quote is from Captain Corellis Mandolin. Lovely quote, and even better book!
I highly recommend it.
Post # 8
Great quote! Exactly what I needed right now! Thanks for sharing.
Post # 9
Wow! We’re very alike! I found this quote when searching for potential readings at our wedding. I didn’t want any bible readings.
I cried when I read this quote because many, many times I had doubted. After reading this, I knew that we were OK and that, like you said, my feelings were normal.
I feel more in live with my FI now because I have a deeper understanding for what love really is 🙂 I’m glad you shared this so that other Bees could take away from this.
Post # 10
Awesome quote! Might have to steal that one!
Post # 11
Love the quote – thank you for sharing it 🙂
Post # 12
So lovely, thanks for sharing. I copied it into my folder of bits and pieces 🙂
Post # 13
I love this so much, thank you for sharing.
Post # 14
i defintely needed to read this. i’ve never felt like it was a mistake to get married, but we have our moments where we fight and get on each other’s nerves. and i need to keep reminding myself that just because we don’t like each other sometimes, doesn’t mean we don’t love each other. if that makes sense.
anyway, thanks for sharing this 🙂
Post # 15
@ConfusedBrideToBe: Oh I love this! Our wedding reading was in a similar vein – I hope you don’t mind if I share it…
From ‘A Gift From the Sea’ by Anne Morrow Lindberg
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility, it is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom. In the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what it was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting as it is now. For relationships, too, must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits – islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides. One must accept the security of the winged life, of the ebb and flow of intermittency.
Post # 16
Such a beautiful quote. Thank you for sharing! It’s so true – I think this is important for anyone in a relationship to read and remember 🙂