Post # 1
With money being an HUGE issue .. and even though we are sooo far out from our proposed date…
after meeting with venues and emailing some, I realize its a huge EXPENSE.. even if I want the simplest of receptions. (basically just food and a good dj, I dont care about anything else) …we have a HUGE family & we are close to EVERYONE 190 people including a few friends!
I am debating the whole reception idea, but dont want to regret not doing it?!!
I def know that we want to celebreate our marriage at our Church no matter what.
I just dont know about the reception. any ideas?! eeeek!
Should we just have a ceremony, no party at all?!
Post # 3
Consider other options, like a cocktail reception, cake and punch, a brunch reception or something like that!
I think it’s doable, perhaps if you go with a non-inclusive venue?
Post # 4
Girl I hear you! I wake up every morning excited to get online to see if any vendors have emailed me back and I start my search for the “perfect” ceremony and reception site. As the day goes on though my excitement dwindles as I realize they have stupid guest minimums (I’m having between 25 and 30 guests), their deposits are outrageous, their per person is like $150 (FOR A BUFFET AT ONE PLACE!) and you know all those other things that are a big pain in the butt. I usually end up saying “Forget it, I don’t even care anymore” meanwhile I do and I have my wedding dress already lol I live in the same area as you so I know what kind of “luck” you’re having. The really nice places are astronomically priced, the so-so ones ARE astronomically priced and the below par diy sites may be affordable but it’s not what you envisioned.
The point to my long rant? Lol I am in the same boat as you but I know it wouldn’t be the same without a reception. You even said you don’t know if that’d be a good idea. So don’t lose hope..there are plenty of things you can do. It depends what you’re going for though. I want a garden outdoor wedding, we live in San Diego there are a tons of those plaes and I’ve gotten over the fact that most of these leave me having to take care of everything, it’s just the way it is :(. You could rent out part of a state park and decorate it for cheap but make it look very pretty. You wouldn’t need to spend too much money on flowers that way either. You could have a reception for CLOSE CLOSE family members and CLOSE CLOSE friends and then later on have something for the other family members and friends.
Post # 5
You don’t need to have a huge reception but you do need to be able to meet and greet your guests after the wedding. They are going to want to talk to you and congratulate you, and you will probably want to do the same for them! I think it would be rude, not to mention a bit awkward and disappointing for all, for you to finish the ceremony and have no further interaction! While they are doing this, it would make you a good hostess to serve some sort of refreshment. At minimum I would do cake and punch. Does the church have a reception hall you can use? I went to a wedding once that had the reception in the vestibule (the lobby area outside of the sanctuary). They had finger foods (chips and dip, veggies, cake) and punch set up on two long tables. It was a nice day outside too and lots of people stepped outdoors to talk and mingle. There were no tables to sit at, no official meal, no dancing, no fancy decor—nothing but very light food and drink and time to talk with the bride and groom and other guests. Great fun was had by all!