Post # 1
My wedding is approximately 8 months away. Last night I got a text from my brother saying “you’re gonna hate me”. Naturally I asked “why?” to which he replied “I’m going to be stealing your wedding thunder”. Hmm. . . I was thinking he was going to be proposing to his gf. Was I right? No. I guess again. . . maybe he’s eloping? Wrong again. He then told me his surprise would be here in 7 months. Oh! His gf his pregnant! Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m an optimist and I am happy for my brother because I think he’s going to make a great father. On the other hand, the timing is all wrong. Right now it’s looking like the baby’s due date is really close to my wedding – May 22. They won’t know for sure until they go to the doctor on Tuesday. May 22 is awfully close to June 8. Is it wrong to be a little upset that yes, he is stealing my thunder?
Post # 3
Yes, it’s wrong. Be happy for him! Other people’s lives don’t revolve around your wedding, and there is enough joy in the world for everyone. His happiness will not take away from yours. 🙂
Post # 4
He really isnt stealing your thunder you get 1 day. Be happy you are going to be an aunt.
Post # 5
Look your feelings are your feelings but I think this “stealing thunder” thing gets way out of hand. People can be excited for a baby and a wedding simultaneously.
Post # 6
Yes, it is wrong. Good grief, you are getting a neice or nephew. That is a pretty amazing “wedding gift”.
Post # 7
Although I can see why you might be a little upset, I think it’s great that your family will have two happy events so close together. It’s great that he told you in private, too, as opposed to in a room full of people. I love being an aunt – congrats!
Post # 8
@Sassygrn: i am excited to be an aunt, don’t get me wrong! i was going to be an aunt to 5 nieces and nephews through marriage and now i get to be an aunt for real! i’m the only one who is slightly optimistic about this. . . everyone else in my family keeps saying he messed up. =/
Post # 9
I think the only way they can steal your thunder if if she pops that baby out during the wedding. Hopefully, that won’t happen. 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
It’s not like this is something he planned to do– I wouldn’t invest your energy into being upset, just accept it and move on.
It doesn’t count as “stealing” when it wasn’t something he wanted/planned for.
Post # 11
How does 1 person having a baby in any way detract from another person getting married?
I don’t get it.
It ADDS to the excitement; it doesn’t take away from it.
Post # 12
I can’t see being upset over something like this. What can he do? Delay the baby? It’s an exciting time for your whole family, be happy for him!
Post # 13
Whew, at least it’s likely she’ll have had the baby by then and at least your brother will be able to be there. I’d be more worried if her due date was a little after your wedding, more risk of him not being there.
Two of my bridesmaid are likely to be due early to mid May (not for sure yet), so I definitely can relate to a little worry about how a pregnancy can impact someone’s ability to be at the wedding. Beside that, I honestly don’t think it is going to steal your thunder! The two events are so different that they will each be special in their own way.
Post # 14
I don’t think he planned it and really don’t think you should be upset. It’s a BABY! It’s not like they are announcing it at the wedding or anything. People love babies and people love brides. They give them each the appropriate attention at the right time. And how lucky are you to be an aunt! Yay!
Post # 15
Having a baby is not something you can ‘fit’ into a schedule. He’s not stealing your thunder, and if you’re family thinks he messed up then I think maybe they need to look in the mirror. Getting a double dose of happy is such a shame….
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
The only part that truly sucks is that he might not be able to go (guessing his gf definitely won’t). Other than that, glad to hear you are happy for him! It’s not wrong to feel a little upset as long as you don’t make a big deal about it and are happy for him and his gf.