(Closed) A little waiting assistance, please :)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I do agree with him, you both are pretty young but honestly moving in together, in my opinion, is probably the worst idea especially since proposal plans won’t be anytime soon. When my then SO and I moved on together, it only heightened my waiting sense even more as we were operating like a married couple. Honestly, I would not feel comfortable moving in together knowing that a proposal was ways off. It is your choice of course but the best way to keep your mind off of it is by not moving in together until a proposal is in the near future. Continue to date and etc. but keep everything from that point until he is more ready. How about moving on your own first and getting that experience of taking care of yourself?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

You don’t have to wait to spend the rest of your lives together, you’re together now! 🙂 Maybe not married, but you still have him.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Well again, it is your choice of course so if it makes sense to you then go for it. My opinion was that moving in together before I knew he was ready hindered my proposal a bit. I waited about 14 months and my wait would have been longer if I didn’t communicate how important marriage plans were to me. He eventually got himself ready and did propose but we went through some of that waiting ugliness as we were living together because he couldn’t give me a reasonable explanation of what he was waiting for and how long I would be waiting.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Ok, my advice would be to go buy a copy of Why Men Marry Bitches. I just got it used for $10. Read it! You don’t have to go extreme and use it as a relationship bible, but I live with my boyfriend, have been dating for 13 months, will be getting engaged in the next year and I found information that was useful.  I also found areas where I could have done better in the earlier part of the relationship. I honestly think that if I had used the “rules” of the book in a way that was natural and fitting for me, I would be engaged right now.

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