(Closed) A logical woman's guide to a good relationship…(warning, long rant ahead)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How do you feel about these opinions?
    Your age(maturity level) and length of relationship should matter in determining when to get married : (187 votes)
    22 %
    Age/maturity and length are not important in when I get married : (8 votes)
    1 %
    I can get upset over his past and he can get upset about mine. : (22 votes)
    3 %
    What has happened happened. We don't dwell on what we cannot change. : (171 votes)
    20 %
    You should walk away from arguments and not deal with them : (8 votes)
    1 %
    You should address your arguments and not allow them to fester : (191 votes)
    22 %
    You should share all (within reason) secrets with your partner and know everything about each other. : (125 votes)
    15 %
    My secrets aren't his business. : (49 votes)
    6 %
    We have discussed looking at porn and he looks at it/we don't care : (90 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    2490 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I love this post!

    Post # 4
    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    This is a great post!! You touch on so many things that I’m thinking when I’m reading all these posts. 

    Post # 5
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @MrsFutureG:  I agree with 98% of this post.  So I’m going to be happy I found someone to express 98% of my thoughts and say: preach it sister!  🙂

    Post # 6
    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I agree with most of your points, there are a few that are just not applicable to my personal realtionship, and since I don’t have experience with those things I try not to judge on them.

    Post # 7
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I think this post is spot-on. 🙂

    Post # 8
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    really liked this 🙂

    Post # 11
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I agree with everything except the secrets thing. There are some things in my life/things I’ve been through that NO ONE needs to know and that I DO NOT ever want to tell anyone.

    Post # 12
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    @MrsFutureG:  +1

    Although, on the not going to bed on an argument thing, that doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. I read a great article somewhere and the writer said that fine, but if it’s an argument that could go on forever you just both end up even angrier and short on sleep!

    Sometimes a sleep, or even a day at work, is enough to help cool tempers so you can make friends again!

    Post # 13
    707 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Completly agree! 

    Post # 14
    2605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @MrsFutureG: I don’t fundamentally disagree with anything you said other than the idea that you need to tell your husband EVERYTHING or notion that one person can ever know another complteely – I think that’s bunk – but the rest is decent enough advise I guess.

    But I will say that being in a relationship with a guy for a whopping 8 1/2 years does not in any way qualify you as a relationship expert let alone a marriage expert.  Perhaps if you offered your advise in a more humble way it might be more well received. 

    Post # 16
    2296 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    This is some very sound advice.  I think all relationships are different and might need different things to thrive, but your points are really spot on.  

    @vorpalette:  Agreed!

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