A long road ahead…I just need to vent.

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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592 posts
Busy bee

If you really want RL get married, you don’t have to have a party to do so! And certainly not to be engaged. 

Obviously there’s a lot going on now with his mother. (I hope her tests put her in the clear!) So now might not be the right time for a discussion. However when the time is right, you two should have a blunt and open discussion about this. Ita always good to start off a legal commitment with the ability to speak plainly with one another. 

Post # 4
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95 posts
Worker bee

There are a few questions that come to mind reading your post, only bc our ages are the same as yours.  Have you discussed having children? You mention in your post wanting them but does he? If so, is he OK with being an “older” father if, in fact, getting married and starting a family is still “years” away? How do you feel about having children at 34/35…37…40? Does that fit into your plan?  Do you want to have children without being married if he decides that marriage isn’t for him?

 

These are just some of the questions I had asked myself at certain points, not sure if you have or if any of those are evn a factor for you.  Just saying, 31 and 36 aren’t exactly ages where you have the luxury of being lax with your planning so to speak.  

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