- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hello fellow hive dwellers, I’ve been having a mostly stressful wedding planning experience. We have a very limited budget because we are paying for it ourselves and will receive little help in the monetary sense, but while it limits things this doesn’t really bother me at all. The guest list, the venue, the colors, the date, even the time of day have been scrutinized and it really brings me down from my wedding planning.
The guest list was(and may still be) my biggest problem, but the list should smaller now because of sticker shock from Sissy’s wedding research for her own nuptials(thank you, Big Sis!). I can’t really say for sure until I can get it from both of our mothers, which is somewhat an issue because I need it to keep planning.
The venue was the second biggest problem because it’s just so difficult to find a place big enough for everybody and still be affordable.
Now I am a very compromising person, but 300 guests on a $5,000-$6,000($6,000 is with stretching it thin and 300 was excluding people to begin with) budget isn’t something that is easily doable. Especially for a couple that wanted an intimate wedding to begin with, but I went ahead and did my best to manage it (after about four months of freaking out) and came up with a semi-brilliant scheme to host so many people.
I opted for a sunrise to sunset backyard affair. An intimate sunrise wedding followed by tea, coffee, coa coa “cocktail” hour that leads into a breakfast when we come back frome pictures. The people there will be all day guests. A simple lunch for older and less rowdy guests and a dinner for a more party crowd. I figured we can do the traditional events in between the lunch and dinner times so that we don’t have to do repeats of the firsts(kinda loses it’s value the second time around). I forgot to mention we will play a recording of the ceromony during the entire reception(although in the beginning sounds less narcissitic and more appealing now that i think about it). There are some holes in the planning, and almost all of the budget would go on food, but all in all a crafty compromise, no?
The response wasn’t exactly positive as most of the holes in my suggestion were pointed out and a shorter guest list was suggested as an easier answer to the situation. (Can I win a couple more times please? I’ll be good I promise!)
I don’t know anything in here to ask for advice on, but I do want to hear some compromise/problem solving stories. Also, if you’re dubious about the details feel free to ask.
P.S. I think I’ll stick with this layout of the day cause I honestly like it and really do believe it’s a great compromise for what everyone wants.