- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Like so many before me, I’m sharing a little of my love story here. My fiance & I unofficially got engaged about a month ago, after having talked about it for months. He asked my dad’s permission on father’s day, which was both as a sign of respect for my parents (as they are old-fashioned) but also because he wants to become a part of my family. Which, of course, he already has.
We live together, so getting engaged in some ways has been less romantic and yet more romantic in others. Since we live together, we already felt like we were engaged/married for awhile, which makes getting ‘officially’ engaged not such a big deal, just because it doesn’t feel any different than before. Of course, being engaged is amazing, because now our dream has become a plan! Despite We’re both especially romantic, which I like, since it makes every of our days special, not just one. He often makes me breakfast in bed, dinner, or massages my feet. I do the same for him. We are both poets, which needs no explanation.
Currently, I’m finishing up my MFA. He just graduated this past spring, so it’s also been a busy and financially rough time for us. We could have gotten engaged later, of course, and waited until he has a steady job and I get paid more, but honestly, why wait? We can’t wait for it to be “official.” Despite us being art-school liberals, we actually do thing getting married is an actual spiritual bond, not just a piece of paper and some perks.
The beginning of our friendship was spent at poetry readings and museums, and our first official date consisted of me baking him a peach pie. It was history from there, let’s say. We were lucky to have a magical start. (For real, we were walking in the rain once, and were able to make it stop and start, no joke. I wish we had an actual video.) Of course, we also have our differences that make us fit even better. He’s more carefree & wild, and I’m more careful & anxious. We also share a 13 year age difference (I’m in my 20s, and he’s in his 30’s.) These things are what makes it interesting. But, he & I are no different from any of you–we’re just two people who love each other.
By the way, here are pics of my ring, which we chose together: